Attractive woman - issue

Sounds like you have self-esteem issues that you should work on. Are you worried about your attractiveness or about his faithfulness?
If he's gone out with you several times he must find you attractive. Everyone goes out with the best they can find - would you settle for second best if you could have any man you wanted? We aim as high as we can, and find someone we are happy with. That's human nature.

That question is rather strange, and will probably get strange answers. I wouldn't stress too much about his answer. You're making a big deal out of absolutely nothing. I'd just forget about it and concentrate on getting to know him. If there's a character flaw hidden behind some secret meaning in his answer, it will show itself in other ways soon enough.

I think you're gorgeous.

In response to eh communication "anonymous and out of character" question, my match answered he would go back in time and keep asking very attractive woman until she agreed to go out with him. Also mentioned about being afraid to ask a very attractive woman. I brought this up in our first date to find his views but he said I was talking about another match! I let that go and I have since verified, he was the one who answered this. But this is still at back of my mind, is he dating me only because he can't get himself a very attractive woman? Its been a couple of dates and I am not sure when/how to bring this up to find the truth.

SHE has self esteem issues?! lol...wow.

I see it completley the opposite.

She seems pretty normal to me, and is picking up on HIS self esteem issues.

It was a very strange way to answer the question and then...lie about it...and he said he was afraid to ask out a very attractive woman.

Well he is also pretty stupid...who would say such a thing to someone they want a chance with? You tell that to your counselor, not a prospective date.

Yes, confirmation....weird answer, weird guy, I wouldn't go out with him.

I have no idea if he finds you attractive or not and to me it wouldn't matter. The foot mouth disease is the problem.

Hi Seagirl,

I don't think his answer was odd to your original question. It is not a secret that attraction is really important to a man so with the question you asked, I can see someone answering like him.

Answering like he did could be an indication of someone with no clue and I would actually find that endearing. I would rather be with someone that does not change his answer depending upon what he thinks I would like to hear.

Lying about it though...that is bad form. But bringing up his answer was bad form too...I think. He gave his answer...you wondering about does imply that it bothered you but that is more a question for you...not him.

Unless evidence to the contrary, I would have taken his answer as that he wished he could walk up to a really attractive girl and ask her out which is out of character for him. That is not a bad answer and it sounds honest to me.

I don't think it means he does not find you attractive...I don't think men, in general, would meet with someone that they did not find physically attractive.

I would be troubled by his dishonest answer when you asked him about it but he might have done it since he felt put on the spot which I believe you did do to him.

I think for edating, we are trying to figure these people out so we do not invest some of our heart. The trouble is, we can be our own worse enemy by pushing or bringing up things when we really should not. I think we need to just meet our dates, accept them at their word and see how they act in real life. We can't take any shortcuts even though we would really, really like to.

Good luck!