VB_Girl is offline VB_Girl Post #1  October 18,2009, 4:42pm
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How many people do you feel comfortable communicating with at one time?

How many people do you feel comfortable dating at one time (excluding first meets)?
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  October 18,2009, 4:55pm
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I think the most I've ever been regularly communicating with is about 5-6 people and the most dating at one time is 3. Besides this being difficult I also get sick of it....as dating in those numbers means I'm dating people that I'm not highly interested in. It's just dating for the off chance that someone will somehow magically turn into someone I'm really interested in. Doesn't seem to work.
 
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Communicating with - around 3 - anymore and it takes up too much time (and I can't keep straight which is which )

Dating (excluding first meeting) - one. Might rethink that though.
 
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VB_Girl wrote :
How many people do you feel comfortable communicating with at one time?

How many people do you feel comfortable dating at one time (excluding first meets)?
I can communicate with at 8 or 10 in the early stages. If we get into Open Communication then more than 4 or 5 becomes very time consuming and would start keeping me from a lot of the other things that I should do, like posting on the Advice boards and maybe even doing some work.

In the early stages of dating 2 or maybe 3 but if one started to stand out and we started to see each other a couple of times a week then I would want to focus only on her.
 
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What happened to the other 3?
 
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I’ve never had so many eHarmony matches for the number of them to be a problem.

I don’t like to be having to compose thoughtful, OC or personal e-mail, messages to more than two simultaneously. Though, I suppose if I had a lot of options, I would just close more of them faster, so it still wouldn’t be an issue.

Using Match, I would generally write only two or three at one sitting (which I did once per week), or fatigue and boredom would interfere with seeing them as an individual. Since most Match women don’t answer, there was usually no ongoing communication; it was rare to have more than one communicating at a time.

I’ve never dated more than two simultaneously, and that was uncommon. Just picked the one I liked best and stopped seeing the other one entirely.
 
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Great question, VB_GIrl.

I find that communicating with more than 3-4 is pretty hard for me to handle. For some reason my matches seem to come in bunches and once you get to OC that is almost too much for me.

As for dating, 2-3 at a time is probably my limit. Not that I have had that problem come up all that often. But, I would be willing to try - as long as they were guys I was really interested in.
 
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Communicating four to five is all I can handle
Dating...No more that two.
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To answer my own question, I'm in communication with 5 and that's about all I can handle.

As far as dating, 3 is my limit. Not that I've ever really had to worry about that more than once.
 
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