What do you do when they call your number but ask for someone else?


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TammieTX is offline TammieTX Post #1  October 18,2009, 1:42pm
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I had my first meeting yesterday and we both decided to keep it light and simple so we decided to meet at the coffee shop that is exactly 3 blocks between both of us at 1:00 in the afternoon. (Yes, in our first phone conversation we realized that we live 6 blocks from each other.)

We spent almost 2 hours talking and laughing and it would have definitely lasted a lot longer but, as I had previously told him, yesterday was also my mother's birthday and my family had plans for an early dinner. As we parted company, we talked about going to some of the places we had discussed and how much fun we'd have talking and laughing on the 5 and 6 hour drives to get to the destinations. He walked me to my car, we hugged and he walked to his car.

Last night he sent me a short email saying how much fun he had and that he's looking forward to seeing me again and I responded with the same thing. But today, he called my house but he wasn't calling for me. He called, and said "Hi, this is James. Is this Elise?" I said "Hey James, this is Tammie. I think you called the wrong number." I could tell he was caught off guard and really uncomfortable so I said, "Don't worry about it, just try again. Good luck." and he immediately hung up.

He moved here from Ohio 3 weeks ago so I know he's trying to meet new people, we even laughed about the fact that the only people he knows here are his co-workers and me. I told him he definitely needs to meet some new people and make more new friends and I meant it. I mean, aren't we all looking to meet new people for one kind of relationship or another? I never thought I was the only woman he's talking to and I'd assume he'd know he's not the only man I'm talking to but it was obvious that the mistake was a big deal to him and I'm not sure what to make of it or how to handle it.

Does anyone have any advice, ideas or opinions to share?
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I would let something like this slide - easy enough to do with stress, a fast-paced job, let alone the thought one's mind leaps to, of multiple women.

Some folks are a bit forgetful, meant to call someone else but selected the wrong number from hsi phone ...

I don't think a mistake like this is a cause for concern.

As long as there is no sign of dishonesty, of course.
 
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I thought this thread was about the DMV. I was gonna say, "Start drop kicking people."
 
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Hmmmm...if I was in a naughty mood, I might pretend to be someone else.

Seriously, I think you handled it fine. You aren't dating...you've been on a date and you should both, at this point, be considering other candidates, right? Just wait and see if he follows up on his plans with you. Could be he'll be too embarrassed to, and that would be a shame, but you never know.
 
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One time I tried calling an old friend from High School named Amy. After talking with the woman I called for about 10 minutes we realized that I had dialed a wrong number and gotten another woman named Amy who knew a man named 'jayjay'.

I've never had a date call me the wrong name, but I expect I'd be a little miffed but overlook it (unless it kept recurring).
 
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You are all so great, thank you! I'm glad you all understand that I'm not upset, life happens and I actually got a little laugh out of it when my son asked "what was that all about?" (We were watching a movie together when the phone rang.)

He's a nice guy and I'm hoping he won't be too embarrassed to talk to me now. Do you think I should send him an email or something so he knows I'm not bothered in the least by the mistake?
 
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dwreese182 wrote :
I thought this thread was about the DMV. I was gonna say, "Start drop kicking people."
LOL!!! Now that would make me over the top angry!
 
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TammieTX wrote :
You are all so great, thank you! I'm glad you all understand that I'm not upset, life happens and I actually got a little laugh out of it when my son asked "what was that all about?" (We were watching a movie together when the phone rang.)

He's a nice guy and I'm hoping he won't be too embarrassed to talk to me now. Do you think I should send him an email or something so he knows I'm not bothered in the least by the mistake?
Couldn't hurt. Who knows what his resiliency level is for these kinds of things. Just a "Thought I'd check in and say hi - enjoyed meeing you and looking forward to seeing you again. Got a giggle out of your call the other night." should be lighthearted enough to ease any anxiety he might be feeling.
 
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I say do whatever you would normally have done had the wrong # call not occurred in the first place. And actually, I don't even think I'd mention it. It's a good way to show him that you're not bothered by it.

If he is/was embarrassed, hopefully it's only momentary for him. There's worse things that could have happened than this.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
Got a giggle out of your call the other night.
Or yeah, this would be good too! Definitely lighthearted enough if he's the type that can laugh at himself (hopefully!)
 
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