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peg099 wrote :
Why would any woman want a pig?
or a "little" sausage for that matter

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Actually, I think she gets the milk if he's the one who climaxes
Um, not to be graphic (or that you may have experienced that side of it orally), but the vast amount of lubrication the female produces as she approaches climax might qualify

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For many I've met the appropriate word would be 'dumb'.Calculated risk I've heard from so many women who have slept with a guy very quickly (sometimes on a first date)....and then he just disappeared. By that logic because so many waited for marriage for it, got married, then found that he was cheating should mean should never get married, It would be one thing if this was all these women wanted. But as it isn't all they want....I think their behavior could be described as dumb, as what they're doing is unlikely to bring the result they want. Using/withholding sexto get anything (other than personal or mutual gratification) would make the person (male or female) a whore (well that was harsh now, wasn't it? Someone call the mod squad! ).
You make it seem as if sex is a difficult task for the women. If sex with you can leave a woman that unsatisfied/not wanting to come back for more, I feel sorry for all the women that have been with you.

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I agree with most of the posters; every situation, every couple is different.

There've been, in my distant and almost-forgotten past, some men that I now wish I'd had sex with,(most everyone dies with a longer "wish I would have" than "wish I had not have" list but didn't because of my narrow view on how relationships "should" develop. As I've gotten older,WISER I've become a lot more liberal with my thinking on sexuality - and happier, too.

That said, someone who has sex on the first date with every new person - well, I think they may lack discrimination, unless their predate screening process is extremely fine and they only date those they've already determined to be "sponge-worthy."
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Actually, I'd say that most time when this happens the man never had any intention of having any kind of relationship with the woman. And so she found out early the depth of character of that man. Life is a learning experience. You can live life on the playing field or watch it go by from the bleachers. I am almost beside myself at the lack of credit you give women for their ability to THINK FOR THEMSELVES and make their own decisions. All they're looking for is quick sex. You seem to know this all so well... could that have been you at some time? This being the case I'd say the appropriate name for these men is 'user'.
Can we start a 12 step group for this? Hi, my name is Steve, and I've had sex with a woman on the first date and I enjoyed it, er her. (applause?)

Just because there are bad drivers out on the road, it does not give reason never to drive.
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There is no cut and dry here. Everyone is different.

I have slept with women on the first date and kept going out with them. There were a few I met at a bar, we went back to my house and afterwards forever parted.

I have had friends who want to see how many women they can bed. Also I have met women like that. So it was a game to them. Of course they were seeing a lot of women/men at the same time.

I would prefer not to have sex on the first date but things happen. Also I prefer to see one person at a time. Although I know sex is only part of relationship but to me it is an important part. Recently I ended a relationship due to us being incompatible in bed. I am very open minded and uninhibited.
- October 18th, 2009, 08:40 am
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Carp! We agree???

In other words, if he doesn't stick around after you fool around, he probably wouldn't have anyway. So does it matter in the long run?

Again, I'm not saying it's a smart move for men or women, but not for the reason that 'he'll think you're a bad girl and never want to see you again'. I'd say disease and personal safety far outweigh the stereotyping issue.
Yeah...the guys who are looking for a quick piece aren't going to stick around anyway. So I'd say it doesn't matter if a woman sleeps with one on the first date....as long as that's all she wants as well. Most of the women I've heard from though weren't happy about this outcome.

BTW: I'm heard the saying 'We can agree to disagree'....but since you and I agree maybe we can 'disagree to agree'. lol
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or a "little" sausage for that matter

Um, not to be graphic (or that you may have experienced that side of it orally), but the vast amount of lubrication the female produces as she approaches climax might qualify

You make it seem as if sex is a difficult task for the women. If sex with you can leave a woman that unsatisfied/not wanting to come back for more, I feel sorry for all the women that have been with you.



Can we start a 12 step group for this? Hi, my name is Steve, and I've had sex with a woman on the first date and I enjoyed it, er her. (applause?)

Just because there are bad drivers out on the road, it does not give reason never to drive.
Dude.....STOP writing text within my posts making it appear as if I wrote the offensive material that you are writing. I am reporting this post to eHA as a violation of their policy.
- October 18th, 2009, 08:59 am
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peg099 wrote :
Actually, I think she gets the milk if he's the one who climaxes
I was just about to say that; you were faster!
- October 18th, 2009, 10:18 am
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Why is there such a double standard on this?? I know we are rehashing similar threads, but???? Meeting someone for the first time after a long period of emails, texts and phone conversations, can be like meeting someone you already know . It all just depends on the situation, and women do have the need too, so if you're both willing, why not?? I've had this discussion with some of my dates too, as in, "would you really want to be with someone that puts out on the first date?" and of course the answers vary.
I absolutely agree with you - especially in an LDR situation.
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what's the name for the guys that have sex on a first date with those girls?
Apparently it's NOT pussinboots.
- October 18th, 2009, 10:23 am
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what's the name for the guys that have sex on a first date with those girls?
Players?
- October 18th, 2009, 11:08 am
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free"
I can get free milk?! I love milk, especially if it's free! Good for the bones. And where the heck would I keep a cow if I were to buy one anyways? Would be a little messy in the living room. Not to mention cows are notorious for hogging the remote! (You know how much cows love to watch Oprah!)

I'll take free milk any day. You can keep that TV hogging cow!
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I can get free milk?! I love milk, especially if it's free! Good for the bones. And where the heck would I keep a cow if I were to buy one anyways? Would be a little messy in the living room. Not to mention cows are notorious for hogging the remote! (You know how much cows love to watch Oprah!)

I'll take free milk any day. You can keep that TV hogging cow!
Can't help it. Now I've got a picture in my head of Daisy the Cow, sitting on the couch with her legs crossed (she's a lady, you know), flipping through the channels until she finds Oprah.
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