loving77 is offline loving77 Post #1  October 17,2009, 9:36am
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Since joining e harmony, I accepted and started communicating with a guy who lived in Canada. Originally we were going, to just meet for coffee. However, things went so well, we also went to grab a bit to eat. After eating and laughing for 3 hours, we then went to a movie. "Couples Retreat". After the movie was over, we realized how "late" it was for him to travel back across the boarder. I felt bad and offered to host him and found accommodations for him.

Overall, he was a complete gentleman and "nothing" happened. The next day, we ate breakfast and laughed and talked another 3 hours.
We really had a great time. Before he left to head back, he asked if I would be willing to see him in two weeks. I agreed. Since I don't have a passport, he has to visit me.

Now, since then we've only talked twice. And one of the times was to finalize the plans of his visit. I don't want to seem anxious and haven't called him. However, I find my self looking at the phone and anticipating hearing from him.

First is this normal? Has anyone every had a date like this? Is this doomed to failure? Did it go to fast? I want to be as traditional as possible. Men or Women if you have any advice it would be appreciate.
 
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scarlet13 is offline scarlet13 Post #2  October 17,2009, 9:40am

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Call him, sister!!!
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #3  October 17,2009, 9:49am
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loving77 wrote :
I want to be as traditional as possible.

Wouldn't you rather be as successful as possible?

I rarely call except to handle logistics. If frequent calling is your thing, then it is on you to make that clear and demonstrate what you have in mind.

I think your situation sounds fine so far; no reason to worry.
 
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If I don't hear anything by Sunday, I will call him.
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #5  October 17,2009, 10:35am
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Like, early Sunday or late Sunday?

Calling bright and early lets you sound all chipper while he groggly rubs the sleep out of his eyes.

Plus, if it goes wrong, you can claim he dreampt the whole thing!
 
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I will take your advise and post the response. I think I like him (alot) and that is why I feel like a high schooler.
 
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If you have confirmed plans, I think you don't have much risk. You can call, but don't go all stalker on him. Don't leave a lot of messages, just a pleasant hello.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Like, early Sunday or late Sunday?

Calling bright and early lets you sound all chipper while he groggly rubs the sleep out of his eyes.

Plus, if it goes wrong, you can claim he dreampt the whole thing!

You crack me up!
 
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Now, since then we've only talked twice. And one of the times was to finalize the plans of his visit. I don't want to seem anxious and haven't called him

My gut says don't worry he'll be there. If you must call him just make it informative and casual. For example the weather is suppose to be really nice so bring walking shoes. ( or really damp and cool ) so we'll probably stay in if that's ok with you. FYI Canadians love talking about the weather !
 
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