Fleuellen is offline Fleuellen Post #1  October 17,2009, 8:09am
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I’ve quickly grown board with the messaging, e-mail, txt, phone process of developing some rapport. It doesn’t seem to help filter or further things.

Face-to-face seems to be the best arbiter. Of late when contacted, or responded too I quickly suggest meeting, if I don’t close.

Tonight I dared a woman to met me at a blues bar with about an hours. Didn’t really expect her to. But if she didn’t the onus would on her to ask me out. But she double dared me, and turned up. Had a great night. Music was wonderful. She was charming, swish. Who knows if we’ll meet again. I enjoyed the pantomime. Once there it didn’t matter if the imaginary woman materialised or not. I was already out socialising.

I done such thing a few other times. One is still panning out. Certainly the situation is better than the drawn out to “no chemistry.” And are we taking it all too seriously when there are fun games to be had.

So is it best to cut to the chase?
 
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Hmm ...

I met one from Match in about an hour, but only one - and I did not present it as "take it or leave it."

While I think this is an excellent idea to seperate the available, interested, interesting women, I think most will balk.

May try it, though.
 
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I see no problem with your approach ... but you are going to get women who feel the same way you do, want to bypass preliminaries, have no concerns about internet creeps, etc. ... and miss out on women you might really like who are more, er, circumspect! It's up to you, what you do!
 
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This is a large part of the appeal.

Excessive concern about “internet creeps” implies she has had bad experience, which means bad decision-making; or that she has not a healthy perspective on the actual danger.

Momentum is also a good thing to establish.

I think the OP presents a method which will cost him a lot of good possibilities, but my experience validates the idea that faster meetings equal better, more compatible partners.
 
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Fleuellen wrote :
Music was wonderful. She was charming, swish. Who knows if we’ll meet again. I enjoyed the pantomime.
It doesn't sound like you take this very seriously. Like you can have a great time with a woman....but could care less if you see her again.
 
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jayjay wrote :
It doesn't sound like you take this very seriously. Like you can have a great time with a woman....but could care less if you see her again.
It was only one evening. How serious should he be at this point ?

I think the Fleuellen hit a happy medium. Just right.
 
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This is what I keep finding funny about these forums. Everyone speaks as if their point of view is the only one. If someone is spontaneous and sets up a scenario that creates spontaneity would they not be finding their perfect match. Yes someone else would probably hate that person but that really doesn't matter since there are only two people involved in a couple.
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
This is what I keep finding funny about these forums. Everyone speaks as if their point of view is the only one.

In that case, we need a tie-breaker.

Whoever has the most posts is right.
 
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I like to meet quick. I'm not sure how I would respond to a 'dare' to be somewhere in an hour or an ultimatum, but generally I think face to face is the best way to try to get to know someone.
 
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In that case, we need a tie-breaker.

Whoever has the most posts is right.

You've always been a trouble maker, frogboy......
 
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