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I initiated contact with a guy on Match.com and we had a relationship for 2 years.
- October 17th, 2009, 10:48 am
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not shur what going on with most of the weman on e harmony,,i see no problem with it but out of all the questions i send out only about 1/10th of them will respond, i respond to all who contact me one way or anouther,, i think it rude to not answer and keep people waiting, at least close out, if im vary interested ill send questions right away , if im slightly interested ill let them send the first, i feel flattered when they send the first
- October 17th, 2009, 01:53 pm
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GEF2 wrote :
After trying for several months the 'old fashioned' way by waiting for the guys to initiate first contact, I have decided to start initiating the contact to matches that I would like to communicate with. So far, I have not had any responses. Are men put off by women making the first move? Also, if they had put that they prefer guided communication and I sent them a fast track would that put them off? (I just can't stand those silly questions and prefer to ask my own-I think its more personal.)
Now what a concept. You are paying your money so why not use the whole service that eHarmony provides.

I like when women contact me first.

Think of it this way. If they have indicated they prefer GC and you send a FT request then you are saying right off that your don't respect their wishes.

You are missing the point of the GC process. I ask the same questions of all my matches and, yes, there are right and wrong answers. If you use GC properly it can reveal quite a bit about a person.
- October 17th, 2009, 08:21 pm
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I like women who initiate contact, and I do initiate contact too.

Online dating isn't just about meeting someone, it's also about meeting someone part of the way. One side or the other can't be expected to do all the work all the time.
- October 17th, 2009, 10:54 pm
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I've take both rout and have no qualms about asking a guy out. What I've found though, is that if a guy is interested, he'll say something. I've had very few responses when initiating...I did make one good friend though. At the end of the day, it can't hurt, but I don't think it makes a huge difference. I personally don't really do it anymore. Good luck
- October 17th, 2009, 11:11 pm
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It is pretty evident the old gender stereotypes, where the female sits demurely and does nothing, and waits for the man to initiate, have NOT entirely died;

Far from it.....

That's too bad, it is clear here that men love it when women intitiate contact sometimes. They are NOT considerd, "Cheap, easy, loose floozies!!" LOL


It is like a refreshing change, actually.
- October 18th, 2009, 03:00 am
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Here is my two cents.

Typically I notice that women who initiate contract tend to be aggressive, which in its self isn’t a bad thing. It doesn’t bother me. I my self have not met any women who did start the contact. A couple of them closed the contact and one I closed it.

As in the response rate, its pretty low on the contacts I start. Once I start and they haven’t answered in 7 days I close it. I have two I went to close and they said they are sorry but they are busy and please keep the contact open. It’s been a month and they still haven’t responded.

I am here to meet people not to play games.
- October 18th, 2009, 09:44 am
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clearlyoblique wrote :
Just most of my communicating matches are named for apostles. I don't know why. When I get twelve, I'll let you know.
And who does that make you??
- October 18th, 2009, 09:53 am
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Well, I'm a woman but I don't see any problem with a woman initiating contact. I'm new to eH and haven't initiated with any matches yet but plan to so do with at least two that I have received thus far. I'm not worried about them thinking that I'm too aggressive. If they think that, then he's not type of guy for me. If they don't respond it's only because they haven't had a chance to truly see my sparkling personality!

In my eyes, you have nothing to lose. It's like not buying a lottery ticket because you might not win or not applying for a job because you might not get it. Who lives like that?! Just go for it!
- October 18th, 2009, 10:28 am
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Sassafras54 wrote :
And who does that make you??
Their saving grace?
- October 18th, 2009, 12:34 pm
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