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Well, I listened to some guy here -- it could have been the Crunch. And then went through my in box, rejecting those that were totally and completely absurd and initiating communication with everyone else.

I had three men in OC very quickly and now have three more on the way. Woops, three of six initiated. Initiating makes the process more fun ... like an interactive game. Just most of my communicating matches are named for apostles. I don't know why. When I get twelve, I'll let you know.
- October 16th, 2009, 10:46 pm
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chrysalis08 wrote :
Sorry jayjay - maybe tonite I am bitter....
Tomorrow is another day.....
Fiddle dee dee. I'll think about that tomorrow.
- October 16th, 2009, 10:46 pm
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Being the shy guy that I am, have never once approached a girl about dating. They approach me. But I can't really expect that to happen here since I can't see their body language from 100 miles away. I find it more comfortable if the girl takes the initiative. I think all the years of hearing about guys with bad pick-up lines and horndogs that just want sex have brought me to wait for her to make the first move. I definitely don't want to look like one of those guys so it's a bit difficult. Took a lot of nerve to send the first questions to a match.
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Love it. I can be lazy like that. I suppose I still apply my template of whether I want to communicate further. But if question is do you think less. Certainly note. In fact I try to be extra considerate to someone who has taken the time to read my proile and make an effort. I don't like sending greetings of into the never-never, so I assume it is no easier for anyone else. And honestly, those who have have been quite delightful.
- October 17th, 2009, 01:46 am
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clearlyoblique wrote :
Well, I listened to some guy here -- it could have been the Crunch. And then went through my in box, rejecting those that were totally and completely absurd and initiating communication with everyone else.

I had three men in OC very quickly and now have three more on the way. Woops, three of six initiated. Initiating makes the process more fun ... like an interactive game. Just most of my communicating matches are named for apostles. I don't know why. When I get twelve, I'll let you know.
That's exactly what I do. It's only flirting like you'd do in a bar, but this way I always get a seat and I don't have to queue for another drink.
- October 17th, 2009, 06:31 am
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JNHEscher wrote :
Being the shy guy that I am, have never once approached a girl about dating. They approach me.
You are cute and it has made you lazy. Start communication with those women now!

It's down to people like us to get this eHarmony thing off the ground.Your community needs you.

- October 17th, 2009, 06:34 am
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chrysalis08 wrote :
I'd like to ask a question - of those who are veterans to this medium of dating.... If you've been doing this for an extensive amount of time, and met several several several different matches, and not found anyone - not anyone - that you could grow something special with, do you not think that perhaps the medium itself, and the unlimited options for other "choices" creates a jaded perspective. Perhaps a lack of willingness to compromise on the "checklist" of what ideal should look like, or a non-chalance about the fact that there's a whole grocery list of others you can pick instead if there's any "work" involved? I'm just wondering what this venue might be doing to our ability to compromise, commit, care.....

I don’t agree with this.

Online dating is only an illusion of choice, not actual choice. While there are many people, there are very few really good, compatible people. Online makes it a lot harder to know who is who upfront, so we tend to meet some “to give them a chance,” who we would not have met – or gone out with – in real life.

Keep in mind that real life dating partners are mostly drawn from family contacts, friends, co-workers and classmates. Thus, a highly pre-screened pool. With online, we have to do the screening that our social class tends to do for us.
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I think it's good. I like it when the lady sends me an e-mail first, there is then an element of "her chasing me" and it means we are more likely to meet and when we do she is more likely to be attracted.
- October 17th, 2009, 07:41 am
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[quote=D_Lion;771650]I don’t agree with this.

Online dating is only an illusion of choice, not actual choice. While there are many people, there are very few really good, compatible people. quote]

Bollocks! I met women on-line, via friends, cycling, etc. The only problem with on-line dating is that I met too many gorgeous women. Sure, I haven't met anyone that I'll grow old with (but I'm not completely certain of that). But, haye, E-H and other serv. are just means of introduction. What happens from there is entirely up to you. fficeffice" />>>
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I spent my first week here making first contacts. I'm spending my 2nd week waiting for my matches to make first contacts. The result seems to be about the same! ... stuck partway through GC.
- October 17th, 2009, 10:25 am
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