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ann_the_bold is offline ann_the_bold Post #1  October 14,2009, 6:16pm
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Just out of morbid curiosity...

A. What's the longest time you've gone between OC and meeting someone?
B. What is the shortest time?
C. In your best guess what is your general average between OC and F2F?
 
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ann_the_bold wrote :
Just out of morbid curiosity...

A. What's the longest time you've gone between OC and meeting someone?
I IMed with a girl from Yahoo! Personals for about 6 months before she agreed to meet.
B. What is the shortest time?
About 3 days with a Labor Day FCW eHarmony match.
C. In your best guess what is your general average between OC and F2F?
I will usually suggest meeting after about 5 or 6 message exchanges in OC so the meeting would occur sometime within 1 to 2 weeks after beginning OC.
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Well it seems to me that the first thing one has to do is find a "LIVE" match. Do you want us to include that in this straw poll??

Then find one that actually gets into OC, and that can take some time as well.

Then find one who has gotten past OC and wants to actually meet instead of playing games, that can take a little time too.
 
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I'm not not eH or Match anymore, at least for now, but I can say how it was for me when I was.

Longest time between OC and meeting - probably 4 or 5 days

Shortest time - 1 day

General average - It seems most communication starts early in the week, once people realize that their date was just too bizarre or they had to sit alone watching all of their married friends at the BBQ. The meetings tend to happen the following weekend, so about 3 or 4 days for me. And it seems to be the same for eHarmony and for Match.

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Laughingdaily wrote :
Well it seems to me that the first thing one has to do is find a "LIVE" match.
I told you already, that MorticianMatch website was supposed to be a joke!
 
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Usually within a week or so.

No reason to drag it out.

A couple emails in OC, exchange actual email addresses and go from there...
 
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ann_the_bold wrote :
Just out of morbid curiosity...

A. What's the longest time you've gone between OC and meeting someone?
B. What is the shortest time?
C. In your best guess what is your general average between OC and F2F?
A and B. I really can't remember my longest time or my shortest time. For me, it will be more informative to look at the time to meet from the first OC communication to the first face 2 face (f2f). GC time can vary but OC...I hear a clock start ticking somewhere...most of the time. lol!

C: When I first started, I wanted to spend more time in OC. Not sure if that was just me not being ready to date or just new to online dating. After sometime in OC with guys, I just figured why not meet them? So about average...once I started doing the process...about three messages before meeting would come up for real (about one to two weeks depending upon the match...but usually about three round robin emails). Once that is on the table, no more OC....(well except one guy - I ended up on five dates with the guy...nice and everything...but I always felt like I was meeting him for the first time everytime I met him. It was strange.)

I think there is a balance somewhere (and I have not found it). You need to be open enough to meeting someone pretty much a stranger but not so much of a stranger that you DON'T feel attracted (and safe!) enough to meet him. I think that is what we all need to achieve but there is a balance in there that is different for everyone. Find your balance, and you will be fine.

(I am still searching for my balance...I have the distant part down in the beginning...my problem is it carries over to the meeting part too.)
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LizziePooh wrote :

I think there is a balance somewhere (and I have not found it). You need to be open enough to meeting someone pretty much a stranger but not so much of a stranger that you DON'T feel attracted (and safe!) enough to meet him. I think that is what we all need to achieve but there is a balance in there that is different for everyone. Find your balance, and you will be fine.
Lizzie (and anyone else), do you find it easier to gage this if you talk on the phone before meeting? Do people generally talk on the phone first to weed out the scary ones? I don't mind talking on the phone first, but am concerned that it is just another delay that will result in me losing interest before meeting face to face.
 
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librarybabe wrote :
Lizzie (and anyone else), do you find it easier to gage this if you talk on the phone before meeting? Do people generally talk on the phone first to weed out the scary ones? I don't mind talking on the phone first, but am concerned that it is just another delay that will result in me losing interest before meeting face to face.
That was how I did it. Message through the site a few times, which is incredibly annoying if the conversation is actually getting interesting, so you switch to either a regular email address and then phone or go straight from the site's messages to the phone. It may not actually BE safer, but it FEELS safer to meet someone after hearing their voice. You hear the vocal cues and get a little better idea of who they really are.
 
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chawks64 wrote :
You hear the vocal cues and get a little better idea of who they really are.
librarybabe wrote :
Lizzie (and anyone else), do you find it easier to gage this if you talk on the phone before meeting? Do people generally talk on the phone first to weed out the scary ones? I don't mind talking on the phone first, but am concerned that it is just another delay that will result in me losing interest before meeting face to face.
I prefer to had at least one phone conversation prior to meeting. Like Chawks said you can get a better idea of who they really are.

Setting up a meeting(date) via email, just doesn't seem right to me at all!

I once met a girl who I didn't speak with prior to meeting with her. The first time I heard her speak, I was completely caught off guard and I let it show, not on purpose.. Just didn't expect this really high pitched voice..

To the OP:
Longest: was about 3 weeks prior to meeting.
Shortest: was same day.. We lived in the same town and walked a The same stretch of beach. We had passed each other too
General tie from OC to f2f:. I would think it would be 4-5 days maybe!
 
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