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well, I'm a pretty 'seasoned' internet dater....and I am put off by the coffee date idea too. I agree, why not just meet at the drive through. My feeling is if you go into things with a felling of 'at least I won't have to stay that long' then you are already feeling a bit negative to start out with and it transfers to your date. I'd rather weed people out well to start with and invest a little more in a nicer first date, as I've already established it's someone I like enough to spend some hours getting to know. It's not the end of the world if I "waste" 3 -5 hours with someone I like but won't marry. Also it's nice to get to know the town a bit better and try new bars, restaraunts, and it's far more condusive to romance and getting to a second date....

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- October 14th, 2009, 09:11 pm
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It's supposed to be a good way to make a first impression. And a cheap way at that. If that doesn't thrill you though, you can always meet for lunch somewhere, or suggest you meet somewhere where there is like a park or something.
- October 14th, 2009, 09:20 pm
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I've done coffee shops and I've done lunch/brunch.

Only once did I find someone who objected to lunch.

Generally speaking I prefer to do lunch. I did have lunch with one woman that was an instant "no chemistry". She was pleasant enough.

For my fellow Canadians, I was meeting a woman for coffee as a first meeting and she suggested Timmies. That was a little odd I thought. Sort of explained the crying session out of no where about a month later.
- October 14th, 2009, 09:25 pm
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I ojbect to lunch can you get less romantic? I don't really think so. Even breakfast might be better...
- October 14th, 2009, 09:28 pm
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cp30 wrote :
well, I'm a pretty 'seasoned' internet dater....and I am put off by the coffee date idea too. I agree, why not just meet at the drive through.
"I'd like to order 2 burgers, a large fries....and a date to go. Oh, and hold the 'crazy'."
- October 14th, 2009, 09:30 pm
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cp30 wrote :
I ojbect to lunch can you get less romantic? I don't really think so. Even breakfast might be better...
So lunch is off limits too. You're a hard woman to please. What happens if some unsuspecting guy who doesn't know your rules asks you to go for lunch or coffee?
- October 14th, 2009, 09:31 pm
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oh no. I see where the world is headed. Drive thru date. Order your dream girl at the window for 2.99.
- October 14th, 2009, 09:33 pm
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cp30 wrote :
I ojbect to lunch can you get less romantic? I don't really think so. Even breakfast might be better...
I think I'd prefer them actually. Less pressure.
- October 14th, 2009, 09:34 pm
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I think I'd prefer them actually. Less pressure.
Less pressure might just guarantee you less fun & definitely less excitement.
- October 14th, 2009, 09:47 pm
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nightling wrote :
I think I'd prefer them actually. Less pressure.
So what happens if a man or woman like you (who prefers lunch dates)......meets a woman or man like cp (who prefers dinner dates)? Are the two of you already incompatible and unable to agree on a date?
- October 14th, 2009, 09:48 pm
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