I've had ENOUGH!!! What will it take?? PART 2 - FOLLOW UP


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cappagirl is offline cappagirl Post #1  October 14,2009, 2:02pm
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Hey Everyone - If you remember my inital thread on this -(here's the link)..http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...will-take.html (I've had ENOUGH!!!! What will it take???)

Here's the follow up:

So i think I started the last thread a day or two after I emailed him my last attempt...which he completely ignored...

NOW...10 days later...I get a stupid little message from him saying 'Hi L...... How are things?'

SERIOUSLY??? After completely blowing me off without a single word or explanation this guy has the guts to actually message me?
AND!!!..pretend like nothing happened??!?!?!?

I haven't replied yet - because I need to calm down about it...and I also have to decide what to do. Part of me wants to message back and tell him where to go....yet another part of me thinks I should just play along. Actually my male friend told me to just play along as if nothing happened and I'm not sure I see the sense in it but he obviously knows guys better than me....

So now I want to hear from all of you (guys and gals) - WHAT DO I DO????
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  October 14,2009, 2:11pm
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cappagirl wrote :
SERIOUSLY??? After completely blowing me off without a single word or explanation this guy has the guts to actually message me?
AND!!!..pretend like nothing happened??!?!?!?

Since nothing!!!!!!!!!!! happened!!!!!!!!

What's to worry about?
 
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abbeyroad28 is offline abbeyroad28 Post #3  October 14,2009, 2:15pm
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This time, ignore him. For good.
 
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saltndlight is offline saltndlight Post #4  October 14,2009, 2:57pm
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I think you just gave him too much importance before you actually meet him better...as far as you wrote on first and now second thread he seems too selfish, immature and a game player...he is the kind that i would keep very far and away because they carry a lot of atraction problems ...be smart and give yourself more self esteem:YOU DESERVE BETTER!...and you don't want more pain in your life do you?
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #5  October 14,2009, 5:33pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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10 days later....because he had 10 other women to go through before he could get to you.
 
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This guy is a player. He thinks he has you hooked. His ego must be huge by now. I would move on. Don't give him the satisfaction. You deserve someone much better than him.
 
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I don't know why you think that he deserves a reply of any kind. Certainly don't know why your guy friend thinks that it would be a good idea to play along as though nothing had happened
 
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bostongirl10 is offline bostongirl10 Post #8  October 14,2009, 6:28pm
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In my limited experience, your male friend is right. As my girls like to say, "Don't show him the cage!" (i.e. don't show him the crazy). Take a deep breath, play it cool and do what you want to do and when you want to do it. Consider this a shift in 'power'. The ball is in your court and you can play the game how you like. If you choose to walk away, chances may be that this dude will think, 'man, how'd i let that one get away?" You'd rather be *that* girl than "the crazy b*tch who freaked out".

I think you should wait a little to send him an email with something casual (but only if you want to and you still like him).
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Shelby is offline Shelby Post #9  October 14,2009, 6:30pm
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You may be his backburner gal. Are you OK with that?
 
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I think your heart wants you to answer his email, and your head remembers the heartache he gave you. What should you do?

I was in the same predicament a month ago when a guy that I really had a lot in common with disappeared on me for 10 days (yes, exactly the same number of days as in your situation). What did I do? I replied to his email after about four days, and pretended that it didn't bother me. Why? Because before we actually meet in person, my expectations for him are very low. What happened? We are going to meet this Friday for dinner. He has been very considerate since, and even sent an email to me a week before our date to say that he called the restaurant that he suggested that we meet at, and found out that it had gone out of business, and suggested another place and confirmed the date and time.

What I am trying to say is, give him one more chance if you really like him. Armed with the knowledge of what he did to you last time, I think that you will act more cautiously and wisely this time around. Who knows? He may have a plausible explanation, and you would never know until you ask him. Or, he may have just gotten scared after you text messaged him a few times too many, according to the people on this board, and then realized, as I suggested to you on your previous thread, that he made a mistake. Or, he may just be playing you, but you'll find out if he is playing you soon enough because he disappear on you again or do something else that will tick you off, but I don't think you have much to lose by giving him a second chance, and so much more to gain.

Good luck!
 
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