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I use the same rules as Wonderwoman402. In my case
No married women
No co-workers.

We do have married couples in the workplace though they work in different units.

I've seen enough workplace relationships implode to make one not worth my time.
- October 13th, 2009, 07:35 pm
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I don't think dating co-workers automatically spells disaster, but I think it gives one more incentive to make better choices about their partners.
- October 13th, 2009, 07:39 pm
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It can cause alls sorts of issues if the two of you are prone to making an unprofessional scene during the courtship.

It can be very difficult if you break up bc you have to see the person every day.

That said, I would do it if I was very interested in the person. In the event of a breakup, I would do as much as I could to make sure it remained as amicable as possible.
- October 13th, 2009, 07:41 pm
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I would never date someone that I worked with. Just a very bad idea all around.

<----- Of course these folks met at work.
- October 13th, 2009, 07:59 pm
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I met my second husband where we both worked. He left before we married, but while we were both there we kept our personal life quiet and no one knew we were dating. I currently work at a small medical office and would not date co-workers in such a close environment. And I would never date patients. Not only is it highly unprofessional, but it could cost the practice in the loss of a patient/patients if it became awkward after things were over. So I think that it depends upon the workplace as to whether dating someone you work with is a good idea. We are all grown ups, after all, and should be able to behave ourselves in a responsible way in our workplaces.
- October 13th, 2009, 08:23 pm
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
It seems that now Jimmy Kimmel is or was dating someone from his show...(what is it with these late night hosts?! lol)

What's your take in workplace dating and relationships? Have you? Would you? Why or why not?

Do you think a workplace relationship could ever work, or does it spell doom from the beginning?
I think it can go both ways. My supervisor dated an employee, and they got married in July and are perfect for each other. I dated an employee, and it didn't work out. It took me awhile of avoiding him (to get over him), to make it easier to be around him.

All I have to say, is if you take this leap, be prepared to deal with it as an adult if it doesn't work out.
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- October 14th, 2009, 09:02 am
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I dated a girl at work (large company, different departments, multiple buildings) that didn't end up working out as we had expected and it's been 4 of the most emotionally draining months I've gone through since our relationship fizzled. We are still amicable, but everything about work reminds me of her and the good times we once enjoyed. At least for me, being in that environment has made the healing period all the more difficult and no doubt has prolonged it far longer than it otherwise would. I don't regret the relationship at all and her friendship is still quite important to me, but be prepared for added stress and pain if it doesn't go the way you planned and your 'one of those types' who needs space to effectively heal and move on...
- October 14th, 2009, 11:07 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
especially seeing as how hard it is to meet decent people.


I agree with this statement. It is hard to meet someone decent, and typically the people I have met that were decent I have know since high school and have randomly run into them out and about in the city.

Wonderwoman402 wrote :
No married [wo]men, and
No coworkers.
In some ways I agree with that. To the first statement. Whole heartedly agree. As Gretchen Wilson stated, "No, you're just a homewrecker", and I refuse to create more havoc for the institute of marriage. However, on the second part, I can't say yea or nay to it. I have dated a coworker and it ended awful b/c we IM'ed all day at work, and then I had nothing to say outside of work. However, as DLion stated, it is hard to meet decent people and typically people where you work you have something to sorta talk about already and proximity. So I am still on the fence still.
- October 14th, 2009, 11:30 pm
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Another issue with this is what if one partner receives a promotion that's in another part of the country. Would the company be willing to move your partner / spouse?
- October 15th, 2009, 09:43 am
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My wife and I met at a place we used to work....been happily married over 10 years.

I think you have 1 shot though at workplace romance. If it fizzles out, it can be pretty hard for both of you to stay employed there. Its usually best for 1 of you to find another job. Also you can't start dating another co-worker while the other is still around. That's where alot of problems and issues can surface. I say yeah to 1 attempt at workplace romance and nay to multiple co-worker relationships (serial of course).
- October 15th, 2009, 04:10 pm
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