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scarlet13 is offline scarlet13 Post #21  October 13,2009, 3:09pm

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Emilsmom is offline Emilsmom Post #22  October 13,2009, 3:54pm
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Hi Mari,
I might be the dissenter in the group, but I say to move on. I have the same problem, but I don't want to be with someone that is not my equal in the income department. I am not materialistic, but I do know that it takes money to have nice things, go on dates, buy food, etc. etc.

There are tons of guys on EH (although I haven't found one yet)!

Keep looking!!!
 
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LizziePooh is offline LizziePooh Post #23  October 13,2009, 5:07pm

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Since it seems to bother you than I would do the guy a favor and just end it.

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And Johnnyguitarman is right - it is acceptable for a man to make more than a woman but it is not acceptable for a man to make less than a woman. Still true today...even after all this time.

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BTW - I made over twice as much as my ex and pretty much paid for everything. And it was not a problem for us for a few reasons: 1) Because quite frankly I really do not care about money, 2) I never rubbed it in and 3) he is an extremely generous soul so he contributed a lot...though it may not have been monetary. If you don't have those three things, I can see it being an issue for people.
 
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LizziePooh is offline LizziePooh Post #24  October 13,2009, 5:08pm

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scarlet13 wrote :
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mari3434 is offline mari3434 Post #25  October 13,2009, 8:11pm
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Thank you all for the great feedback. After reading this all, I may have some baggage or hang ups from my prior long term relationship. My ex made good money - about 70, 000.00 per year, but I made more and that really bothered him. I paid most of the mortgage and daily expenses. He would even decline trips when I would suggest same and offer to pay - he wanted to be the one paying always. It was his own insecurity -and it didn't help that when I started dating him years ago, I was just a law student with little income. Within a matter of 3 years after graduating and being called to the bar, I was making well over 100,000 per annum - that is a huge leap in a short period of time. He had a really hard time dealing with that - his ego so to speak. I could date someone who made less money, as long as he was emotionally secure with that - a lot of men may not be because of outdated societal views (men should make more than women). If the man was willing to be Mr. Mom, and I adored him, I would certainly embrace the low income guy I am just not so sure how many of those truly exist out there...lol.
 
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