How long do you wait between dates?


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mukore is offline mukore Post #1  October 12,2009, 3:56pm
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How long do you wait between dates when you're just starting out with a new date? Once a week? Twice a week? Or less?

I think it depends on the two people, but I'm just curious what other people are doing.
 
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This part may sound cliche, but I think it depends on the two people and how well each of you click, and can realistically stand to hang out with each other per week.

I dated this guy who was awesome, funny, great, whatever...however, he wanted to go out almost every day! It got to the point where he just wanted to hang out - as if he just wanted company for the night, or just an excuse to get out of his house - but when it came down to it, he had no clue what we were going to do, or where we were going. I had many ideas of my own, naturally, but it was always "I don't know" with him...*YAWN*

Then I had a guy who was awesome - yet again - all around, and who also had the common sense to add some anticipation and longing into our dating by taking it slow...meeting maybe once a week. The "torture" and anticipation of it all made the date that much more enjoyable, and it also gave him time - evidently - to know exactly what we were doing. He always had it well planned out with adventurous, romantic excursions and surprises.

So, when on the date, just go with the flow of things. If she actually invites you to do something specific "tomorrow" then by all means go out with her tomorrow. If she just "wants to see you again" then tell her you'll give her a call, and call her when you want, and when you're not going to be a bump on the log.=] Good Luck!
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"meeting maybe once a week"

Goosh. I don't think I'd have time for such. Rather, I have various things I like to do, commitments (as do we all) and it depends who I might be going with, want to ask along etc. Sometimes it involves different women, but I tend to settle of a fav't. By-the-by. I don't think I create any sence of anticipation. Rather, where's gone off to now? But early on I suggest once a week; more ofte suggest you're kinda dull.
 
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I would recommend once a week in the initial stages of dating.

Remember, you've got your own exciting fun life to lead too.
 
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Early on you should not have time for more than about once a week. You have all the other people you are dating to see on those other days.
 
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I think it depends on the date. If things are developing, twice a week would be expected. Much oftener than that indicates rushing. Much less than that indicates stalling.
 
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If we click-bam-boom, then as often as possible. I'd be willing to wedge in a lunch once or twice a week, an after-school dinner or errand run, then get together on the weekend.

As often as my schedule allows, I'd say, same with hers.

Either way, daily communication via phone conversation (not texting or email, call and talk).

I stay away from dating multiple women, even casually. Trust me, that's a bad, bad thing to do.


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I gotta say I agree with Saul on this one. I only date one guy at a time, and I don't figure there's any point in continuing to date them if I don't want to see them as often as possible or don't like just "hanging out" with them. Above everything else, I gotta be with someone who can be my friend, and that should just be natural - no grand planning required. . .errand runs, I like that.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #9  October 14,2009, 11:57am
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Mr_Right wrote :
I would recommend once a week in the initial stages of dating.

Remember, you've got your own exciting fun life to lead too.
I expect to be more exciting than anything else a woman has going on in her life.
 
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Dugl is offline Dugl Post #10  October 14,2009, 1:19pm
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jayjay wrote :
I expect to be more exciting than anything else a woman has going on in her life.
Yeah....I like that !!!
 
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