baraka is offline baraka Post #1  October 12,2009, 1:57pm
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I started a new job (two weeks in), we are in training, and there is a girl I like. She is really nice and friendly, pretty much with everyone, so it is hard to tell in what way she likes a person.

If I have been walking to work, she has come up to me once or twice, if we happen to be around the same point at the same time, and the other way around too.

She likes to go out, and likes to stay fit, running, working out, etc. How should I initiate contact that I am interested in seeing her outside work, even if it is to be friends first. Thanks!
 
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baraka is offline baraka Post #2  October 13,2009, 6:01pm
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Bump.

I was thinking of asking if she wants anyone to run with? As I actually would not mind doing so.

Also, if we are walking out of work, I sometimes don't walk with her, and the same way both ways. For me, I am a bit shy, as I would like to. For her, it is probably just going about normally.

So, same question from post #1 applies. Thanks!
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #3  October 13,2009, 6:06pm
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One consideration regarding someone you work with is how closely you work. For example, if you both work for a very large company and would rarely see each other during working hours....or if you would be working closely on an almost daily basis. If the latter....I'd be very reluctant to get involved romantically.
 
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This is a real easy one to solve. Which is most important to you, the job or a date?? I will save the carping at work for later.
 
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I would never date anyone that I worked with. In my case that included when I worked at a facility with 24,000 people.

You may want to see this thread: workplace-dating-yea-nay

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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I would never date anyone that I worked with. In my case that included when I worked at a facility with 24,000 people.

You may want to see this thread: workplace-dating-yea-nay

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I agree. Bad, bad idea! BTDT...very large company (didn't matter)
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I would never date anyone that I worked with. In my case that included when I worked at a facility with 24,000 people.

You may want to see this thread: workplace-dating-yea-nay

(I would have posted it as a link but that did not work)
Wow 24,000 people? That's one big facility. As a rule I would not either, but 24,000 is a lot of people and if I met someone that I really hit it off with at a workplace that huge I would not hesitate to ask her out.
 
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I wouldn't have any problem dating a woman who was on the faculty at my university, as long as she was in another dept. In fact, I already have.
 
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Lots of couples at my old (large) company and older (small) company met at work. I've dated a few co-workers. It's a great place to get to know someone. Just be prepared for the consequences!

And bear in mind that if she's your boss or your hers, and you approach her, there are sexual harassment issues that can rear their ugly little heads. Stick to peer co-workers.

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