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I know many of you all gone out on date but the real question is should you kiss ( french kiss ) on first date? or kiss on cheek only?
- October 11th, 2009, 12:15 pm
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If you want to, then you should. If you don't, then you shouldn't.

We are not teenagers any more.
- October 11th, 2009, 12:35 pm
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sweetexodus wrote :
( french kiss )

This is not appropriate for the first time you kiss a woman (unless you are already in the process of taking each other's clothes off, in which case, you do not need to worry.)

As you are saying "goodnight" or something after a firt meeting, it is a mistake which will get you dumped on the spot, usually.
- October 11th, 2009, 12:42 pm
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I agree with D_Lion, every time I have french kissed on the first date, the relationship went no where. It establishes too much intimacy too soon. So unless that is what you looking for, don't do it.

I think a quick kiss on the lips is OK and cheek is fine too... Women are usually the one to do this though...
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- October 11th, 2009, 12:50 pm
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sweetexodus wrote :
I know many of you all gone out on date but the real question is should you kiss ( french kiss ) on first date? or kiss on cheek only?
No Tongue !!

Take her jaw in your hand
Look her in the eye
Lean in slowly and just before your lips touch hers whisper..
Thank you for a memorable night
kiss gently
And then be a gentleman and pick her up off the floor because her knees will give out and she'll go thud...
- October 11th, 2009, 12:59 pm
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I dunno. If a guy reaches out to grab my jaw he'll probably get a stiletto to the instep.
- October 11th, 2009, 01:11 pm
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If the moment is right and it is clear that the other person feels the same way, a kiss on the lips, soft and quick, no tongue is appropriate
- October 11th, 2009, 01:12 pm
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All I usually do is give him a peck on the cheek, ha ha
- October 11th, 2009, 01:37 pm
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French Kiss=No

Kiss on the lips=YES, if there is interest/chemistry

If you go to kiss her goodbye and she pulls away or turns her head to give you her cheek, don't bother calling her again because she is not interested.

Guys, if you have had a good 1st date and are interested in her/wanna see her again, here is what you should do:

THE KISS TEST
Walk her to her car, say "it was nice meeting you tonight, have a great rest of your evening", and go in CONFIDENTLY to give her a goodbye kiss (no tongue but definitely on the lips).

You will have your answer right away as to whether she is worth the effort to pursue anymore! If you are decisive/non-nervous/non-weenie about it and she wants to see you again, then she will meet your kiss lips-to-lips. If she backs away or (more likely) gives your her cheek to kiss, then she isn't interested and you will be wasting your time in calling her again.

If you don't try to kiss her goodbye or do the half-hearted cheek-kiss thing, she will likely assume that you aren't very into her, whether or not she liked you.

That is how it works...the "kiss test" at the end of a 1st date is the best way to alleviate all those silly questions that both sides have flying through their mind on the way home:
"I liked him/her and we seemed to have a good time together--I wonder what if he/she wants to go out again..."

.....and so on
- October 11th, 2009, 01:55 pm
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MPdoc68 wrote :
If you are decisive/non-nervous/non-weenie about it
Love it!

I was going to go with Trixie's "do what you want" on this but, surprisingly, I'm going to vote for "on the lips, no tongue" on the first date for two reasons.

First, it is kind of assuming a lot and can make a guy look aggressive when the reality is that (ahem) maybe it has just been a while (wink wink, nod nod, know what I mean, say no more).

Second, when you give the kiss on the lips with a lot of passion behind it (does NOT equal flattening her lips into oblivion) without actually releasing that passion, it makes her want more of it. Don't we always want what is just out of reach?

So... passionate lips with no tongue.
- October 11th, 2009, 03:13 pm
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