Should you kiss on first date?


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olneyjeeps is offline olneyjeeps Post #51  October 13,2009, 7:47pm
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OK, so I cannot shake the mindwarping crap they fed me in Catholic school and cannot help but act overly conservative .... to the best of my memory I have never kissed on the first date, with one exception (kind of): spring of 89 went to movie with a girl (I had never had girlfriend, kissed one girl). Afterwords went and had ice cream and a heated (yet logical ) debate about logging. When done, thinking I had totally screwed up, I walked her to her car and commenced pleasantries of saying good night when BAM!!! SHE KISSED ME!!!! Though it was just a little peck on the lips, I was completely dumbfounded. Best I can figure, it was that same week (before I could call back) that I wrecked my Jeep (coma, rehab, learn my name, learn to talk, blah blah blah). Was not until a couple years ago (I saw reruns of "The Abyss") that I even remembered. Out of curiosity looked her up, she is now married with kids, supposedly did not even remember the date (did not have it in me to remind her, though I can remember like it was last night).

Though I wanted to from the first time I met her, did not kiss Laura until 3rd date (4th meeting). Can remember that like it was .337 seconds ago (have a "movie" that I close my eyes and watch from time to time).

I'm not going to say there is anything wrong with advancing quickly, but some of us are more comfortable taking our time and enjoying learning nuances first.
 
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My vote is yes, kiss on the first date. I cannot recall a date that did not end in a nice kiss. I let my date give the tongue first and since I do like french kissing, well, it's always welcome. I find more women have slipped the tongue in the kiss then women who have not on the first date.
 
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I think like any of the "next step" items in dating, kissing is totally situational. I don't always go for it, but if the conditions are right, and if both parties seem into it, then heck yes. Just Sunday I spent most of the afternoon with a lovely woman and at the end I walked her to her car and we had a half dozen very good kisses. No tongue, but soft, warm, deep kisses.

To be honest, if there's chemistry, it usually happens on its own. If there's not, it doesn't. It's that easy. However, when there is chemistry during the date, I often mention that I am a great kisser, which always piques their interest. I'm a very self-deprecating guy who doesn't take himself very seriously, so it works for me. From all the sources I've asked, they all say I truly am a great kisser, so it's not just boasting. More often than not, women want to find out--just make sure you can deliver.

However, I never, ever use tongue until she does it first. That just seems like an invasion and I let her make the call. But I still give her full wattage on the kiss.

I have to admit that now that I'm dating more, I really am coming to enjoy kissing a great deal. I've had two ladies with whom I've had some extended kissing (this most recent one being one, the one I fell for being the other), and it was AMAZING. I don't recall it ever being that thrilling before. Wow.
 
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hogrally wrote :
No Tongue !!

Take her jaw in your hand
Look her in the eye
Lean in slowly and just before your lips touch hers whisper..
Thank you for a memorable night
kiss gently
And then be a gentleman and pick her up off the floor because her knees will give out and she'll go thud...
I'm on the floor...maybe not the best for the first date, but definitely afterwards!
 
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I typically do not kiss on the first date. But on the third date, or second date if we're both feeling each other, I'll give the lady a kiss.
 
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First date, long hug. Second date, one good kiss. Third date, lots of kisses.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
i've been known to kiss on the first date. I've also been known to show a little ankle from time to time

It's the stiletto that worries me.
 
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I realize this is an "old" thread, but I am a new member so I just got around to reading it. Wow. I wish I'd read this before my first couple eH dates earlier this month. It's embarrassing to say, but it's been... a while... since I've been on a date, and I really wasn't sure what the current "rules" were.

The first date we spent literally hours talking after dinner and although he was flirtatious and let a few innuendo things slip even the end of the night brought a very chaste kiss that I had to initiate. I even tried to lean in for a second time to let him know it was ok to kiss me back and got the same chaste kiss. The other date went very well except I mucked up the beginning... He leaned down to hug me, I think, and I stupidly stuck out my hand for him to shake (!!!). What was I thinking? lol I don't know... oh well. So at the end of the date he walked me to my car, in a completely different lot from his, and gave me a nice, strong, lingering... hug.

I left both these dates confused as to whether or not they were even into me at all. But after reading this I see it as... they were probably following protocol and being cautious, and I was worrying too much. They hugger asked me out again and the chaste kisser did not.

SO... my vote is... well, I like what JayJay said... if you're gonna kiss the girl, be confident about it. No one likes wishy washy romance. If you're not gonna kiss her, be sure to let her know you are into her and want to see her again if that is, in fact the case.
 
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hogrally wrote :
No Tongue !!

Take her jaw in your hand
Look her in the eye
Lean in slowly and just before your lips touch hers whisper..
Thank you for a memorable night
kiss gently
And then be a gentleman and pick her up off the floor because her knees will give out and she'll go thud...

Wow great advice.
 
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