Advice and Support from Thousands of Users Just Like You

Dating First-date jitters? Hoping for a second date? Moving on to a full blown relationship? Share your journey and advice here.

Reply
Page 6 of 6 « First 4 5 6
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
olneyjeeps olneyjeeps is offline
olneyjeeps's Avatar

olneyjeeps Officially recognized (IMDb) as an official official! (in the credits )

Enthusiast

Join Date: May 2009

Posts: 592

See profile

OK, so I cannot shake the mindwarping crap they fed me in Catholic school and cannot help but act overly conservative .... to the best of my memory I have never kissed on the first date, with one exception (kind of): spring of 89 went to movie with a girl (I had never had girlfriend, kissed one girl). Afterwords went and had ice cream and a heated (yet logical ) debate about logging. When done, thinking I had totally screwed up, I walked her to her car and commenced pleasantries of saying good night when BAM!!! SHE KISSED ME!!!! Though it was just a little peck on the lips, I was completely dumbfounded. Best I can figure, it was that same week (before I could call back) that I wrecked my Jeep (coma, rehab, learn my name, learn to talk, blah blah blah). Was not until a couple years ago (I saw reruns of "The Abyss") that I even remembered. Out of curiosity looked her up, she is now married with kids, supposedly did not even remember the date (did not have it in me to remind her, though I can remember like it was last night).

Though I wanted to from the first time I met her, did not kiss Laura until 3rd date (4th meeting). Can remember that like it was .337 seconds ago (have a "movie" that I close my eyes and watch from time to time).

I'm not going to say there is anything wrong with advancing quickly, but some of us are more comfortable taking our time and enjoying learning nuances first.
- October 13th, 2009, 08:47 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#51   Reply With Quote
tommyboy047 tommyboy047 is offline
tommyboy047's Avatar

tommyboy047 back

Quick Study

Join Date: May 2009

Posts: 236

See profile

My vote is yes, kiss on the first date. I cannot recall a date that did not end in a nice kiss. I let my date give the tongue first and since I do like french kissing, well, it's always welcome. I find more women have slipped the tongue in the kiss then women who have not on the first date.
- October 16th, 2009, 03:09 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#52   Reply With Quote
Seuss Seuss is offline
Seuss's Avatar

Quick Study

Join Date: Sep 2009

Posts: 100

See profile

I think like any of the "next step" items in dating, kissing is totally situational. I don't always go for it, but if the conditions are right, and if both parties seem into it, then heck yes. Just Sunday I spent most of the afternoon with a lovely woman and at the end I walked her to her car and we had a half dozen very good kisses. No tongue, but soft, warm, deep kisses.

To be honest, if there's chemistry, it usually happens on its own. If there's not, it doesn't. It's that easy. However, when there is chemistry during the date, I often mention that I am a great kisser, which always piques their interest. I'm a very self-deprecating guy who doesn't take himself very seriously, so it works for me. From all the sources I've asked, they all say I truly am a great kisser, so it's not just boasting. More often than not, women want to find out--just make sure you can deliver.

However, I never, ever use tongue until she does it first. That just seems like an invasion and I let her make the call. But I still give her full wattage on the kiss.

I have to admit that now that I'm dating more, I really am coming to enjoy kissing a great deal. I've had two ladies with whom I've had some extended kissing (this most recent one being one, the one I fell for being the other), and it was AMAZING. I don't recall it ever being that thrilling before. Wow.
- November 25th, 2009, 01:32 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#53   Reply With Quote
LivingBetterLonger2009 LivingBetterLonger2009 is offline
LivingBetterLonger2009's Avatar

LivingBetterLonger2009 loves being held in her Father's arms

Quick Study

Join Date: Oct 2009

Posts: 107

See profile

hogrally wrote :
No Tongue !!

Take her jaw in your hand
Look her in the eye
Lean in slowly and just before your lips touch hers whisper..
Thank you for a memorable night
kiss gently
And then be a gentleman and pick her up off the floor because her knees will give out and she'll go thud...
I'm on the floor...maybe not the best for the first date, but definitely afterwards!
- November 25th, 2009, 02:13 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#54   Reply With Quote
BruceLeroy BruceLeroy is offline
BruceLeroy's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Nov 2009

Posts: 24

See profile

I typically do not kiss on the first date. But on the third date, or second date if we're both feeling each other, I'll give the lady a kiss.
- November 25th, 2009, 05:19 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#55   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

Mr_Right Mr_Right is offline
Mr_Right's Avatar

Mr_Right has a celebrity lookalike

Virtuoso

Join Date: Jun 2008

Posts: 3,030

See profile

First date, long hug. Second date, one good kiss. Third date, lots of kisses.
- November 25th, 2009, 05:46 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#56   Reply With Quote
6dle899 6dle899 is offline
6dle899's Avatar

6dle899 If it were that easy, everyone would do it.

Virtuoso

Join Date: Apr 2008

Posts: 4,380

See profile

scarlet13 wrote :
i've been known to kiss on the first date. I've also been known to show a little ankle from time to time

It's the stiletto that worries me.
- November 25th, 2009, 07:43 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#57   Reply With Quote
Mr_Right Mr_Right is offline
Mr_Right's Avatar

Mr_Right has a celebrity lookalike

Virtuoso

Join Date: Jun 2008

Posts: 3,030

See profile

lol
- November 25th, 2009, 08:49 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#58   Reply With Quote
ShiNyBluEZ ShiNyBluEZ is offline
ShiNyBluEZ's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Jan 2010

Posts: 29

See profile

I realize this is an "old" thread, but I am a new member so I just got around to reading it. Wow. I wish I'd read this before my first couple eH dates earlier this month. It's embarrassing to say, but it's been... a while... since I've been on a date, and I really wasn't sure what the current "rules" were.

The first date we spent literally hours talking after dinner and although he was flirtatious and let a few innuendo things slip even the end of the night brought a very chaste kiss that I had to initiate. I even tried to lean in for a second time to let him know it was ok to kiss me back and got the same chaste kiss. The other date went very well except I mucked up the beginning... He leaned down to hug me, I think, and I stupidly stuck out my hand for him to shake (!!!). What was I thinking? lol I don't know... oh well. So at the end of the date he walked me to my car, in a completely different lot from his, and gave me a nice, strong, lingering... hug.

I left both these dates confused as to whether or not they were even into me at all. But after reading this I see it as... they were probably following protocol and being cautious, and I was worrying too much. They hugger asked me out again and the chaste kisser did not.

SO... my vote is... well, I like what JayJay said... if you're gonna kiss the girl, be confident about it. No one likes wishy washy romance. If you're not gonna kiss her, be sure to let her know you are into her and want to see her again if that is, in fact the case.
- January 17th, 2010, 09:56 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#59   Reply With Quote
Reply
Page 6 of 6 « First 4 5 6

Bookmarks


« First things you say when you see your date approaching you on 1st date? | Array | "elite" dating site boots "fatties" for holiday weight gain - thoughts? »
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Texting other women on a date Mystified101 Ask a Dating Expert 58 January 20th, 2010 12:03 pm
Second date, No Kiss: is this guy even interested in me? bronte71 Dating 44 December 11th, 2009 05:13 pm
Bad Second Date Sort of bdavie Ask a Dating Expert 16 October 13th, 2009 12:29 am
women who ...KISS on the first date.... cp30 Dating 48 October 7th, 2009 11:28 am
Fear of Date? passat1 Dating 8 August 16th, 2009 08:52 am

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“wooo!!! that last post of mine...was number....69!!!!!!!!” – ratedPG

Join the “No Valentines” discussion

“ You had me until this response. But maybe you and I define "geeky" differently. To me, "geeky" is someone who is intelligent and interested in/passionate about some of the more esoteric activities ... ” – chemgal

Join the “Hope for a geek?” discussion

“If he is truly concerned about the boy, he can refer them to a social services agency that can help them. If they are not BF/GF, she should not be living with her and he should not be bowing to her ... ” – hycpt

Join the “is it normal? or traditional american culture?” discussion

“The FIRST thing depends on the person... If a woman walks into a black and white ball wearing red, how many people are going to notice her eyes or smile first? 4 inch heels and a mini skirt may ... ” – PassionateButShy

Join the “Physically, what's the first thing u notice on a man/woman?” discussion

“I going to eat&drink what i want on the first date. as long as you use table manners it should not matter .and on the first date i not worrying about kissing any way i do not want that person that ... ” – misswright

Join the “What Not to Eat and Drink on a First Date” discussion

“My current bf (on our first date, mind you) said "You know, I've been wondering: what's wrong with you?!" He explained that he meant I was so great, he was trying to figure out what the catch was. ... ” – bretagne89

Join the “That WAS a compliment... I think?!” discussion

“I have a question. I have been seeing a guy who I am very excited about for the past month. Things are going swimmingly well, and we are spending saturday evening and sunday of valentine's weekend ... ” – DennisWisconsin

Join the “valentine's gift” discussion

“Yup, get on the phone. If you dont have anything to talk about there you wont in person. Saves time and energy.” – livenlearn

Join the “Meeting someone” discussion



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 11:49 pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2010, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.3.0