Should you kiss on first date?


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Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #31  October 11,2009, 10:01pm
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pussinboots wrote :
Before I went on my date last week, we had agreed not to order any meal with garlic. She did anyway and I ordered the same thing after she did.
And... and.... So, did you kiss at the end of the date?!???
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PR_Princess wrote :
What do you have to look forward to if you have covered all the bases on the first date?
Since when is a kiss "all the bases?"
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
And... and.... So, did you kiss at the end of the date?!???
We need details!
I got a kiss on the cheek.
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
Since when is a kiss "all the bases?"
Talking about a kiss BETWEEN the cheeks. Hmmm, I must admit I was patiently waiting for this opening.
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WOW. I've read this entire thread and there is still no answer. Is it really that complicated? You can easily tell by the date and conversation what kind of kiss, if any, is appropriate. Some women may like you but only want a quick peck on the check and others may not be interested in another date but still give a kiss "goodbye" and everything in between. Either way, you know before the kiss, what is appropriate. This isn't rocket science guys. These are natural feelings, you can just feel what is right. And if you were wrong, you'll know it in a second.
 
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MPdoc68 wrote :
French Kiss=No

Kiss on the lips=YES, if there is interest/chemistry

If you go to kiss her goodbye and she pulls away or turns her head to give you her cheek, don't bother calling her again because she is not interested.

Guys, if you have had a good 1st date and are interested in her/wanna see her again, here is what you should do:

THE KISS TEST
Walk her to her car, say "it was nice meeting you tonight, have a great rest of your evening", and go in CONFIDENTLY to give her a goodbye kiss (no tongue but definitely on the lips).

You will have your answer right away as to whether she is worth the effort to pursue anymore! If you are decisive/non-nervous/non-weenie about it and she wants to see you again, then she will meet your kiss lips-to-lips. If she backs away or (more likely) gives your her cheek to kiss, then she isn't interested and you will be wasting your time in calling her again.

If you don't try to kiss her goodbye or do the half-hearted cheek-kiss thing, she will likely assume that you aren't very into her, whether or not she liked you.

That is how it works...the "kiss test" at the end of a 1st date is the best way to alleviate all those silly questions that both sides have flying through their mind on the way home:
"I liked him/her and we seemed to have a good time together--I wonder what if he/she wants to go out again..."

.....and so on
I agree.
This would certainly be the first step to keeping my interest in a man I would like to get to know better.
 
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jmavisnj wrote :
WOW. I've read this entire thread and there is still no answer. Is it really that complicated? You can easily tell by the date and conversation what kind of kiss, if any, is appropriate. Some women may like you but only want a quick peck on the check and others may not be interested in another date but still give a kiss "goodbye" and everything in between. Either way, you know before the kiss, what is appropriate. This isn't rocket science guys. These are natural feelings, you can just feel what is right. And if you were wrong, you'll know it in a second.
So....answer the question....should you kiss on the first date?

I think most folks here are responding to the hypothetical word "should"...thus there is no direct answer. I say a lip-lock is fine but no tongue on the first date...some say yes that is okay if both are amenable.

I just don't know a man that well to have his tongue down my throat on a first date. Plus, first dates are sooooo nerve-wracking (no matter how much chemistry the couple may have with each other), it is near impossible to get that perfect first kiss just right...best to avoid the tongue action and save the french-kissing for date #2...(if there is a second date!)

On the other hand, I would not be averse to being swept off my feet and experience the best first date kiss ever!
 
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pussinboots wrote :
I got a kiss on the cheek.
Ahhhhhh...foiled again by the nasty "garlic monster", huh?

Glad the date worked out well....it sounds like despite the garlic you both had a great time!
 
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jmavisnj wrote :
WOW. I've read this entire thread and there is still no answer. Is it really that complicated? You can easily tell by the date and conversation what kind of kiss, if any, is appropriate. Some women may like you but only want a quick peck on the check and others may not be interested in another date but still give a kiss "goodbye" and everything in between. Either way, you know before the kiss, what is appropriate. This isn't rocket science guys. These are natural feelings, you can just feel what is right. And if you were wrong, you'll know it in a second.
And sometimes a lot of kissing still does not lead to a second date.....

Sometimes chemistry is just not enough.
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
Since when is a kiss "all the bases?"

It's not...but you only get one first one with this person...and there are certain things in life you like to gobble up and other things you just like to savor
 
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