Should you kiss on first date?


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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #21  October 11,2009, 6:43pm
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Tongue on the first date is likely to get it bit off, so I was told by a female friend (not someone that I date) of mine.

A hug and a little peck on the cheek, but if you are pushing the intimacy envelope you are going to crash and burn.
 
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Mangosteen wrote :
I've never been kissed on a first date.
jayjay wrote :
Yeah, well.....you need to stop dating 'boys'. lol
Mangosteen wrote :
ooooh boy... i guess i happen to like boys :P never thought no kissing on the first or second dates was weird... or even the third. come here to find out everyone else is doing it!
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It's ok...don't worry. At a certain age dating 'boys' is appropriate. But someday you'll grow up and start dating men.
I refuse to grow up and she can date me
 
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Call me old fashioned...you can look but you can't touch Trust me...it will drive the person loco Especially if you have been very successful at drawing them close to you with your wit and charm all night. Doesn't any one build suspense anymore? What do you have to look forward to if you have covered all the bases on the first date?
 
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Call me old fashioned...you can look but you can't touch Trust me...it will drive the person loco Especially if you have been very successful at drawing them close to you with your wit and charm all night. Doesn't any one build suspense anymore? What do you have to look forward to if you have covered all the bases on the first date?
Hitting another home run?

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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #25  October 11,2009, 8:55pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Hitting another home run?

You never get tired of hitting home runs.
.....and pussinboots is safe at home plate!
 
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Are you all for real? No one uses a tongue on the first date? Seriously?

I can't think of the last time I didn't have a good kiss at the end of a good first date, and it always includes "french kissing." It's either mutual, or I'll give him a little nudge so he knows it's okay. I've never had a guy complain! Most times he'll lean in for another. I want to know what kind of kisser he is at that point, not several dates or weeks down the road!

Closed lip kissing is for your relatives, not your dates.
 
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Are you all for real? No one uses a tongue on the first date? Seriously?

I can't think of the last time I didn't have a good kiss at the end of a good first date, and it always includes "french kissing." It's either mutual, or I'll give him a little nudge so he knows it's okay. I've never had a guy complain! Most times he'll lean in for another. I want to know what kind of kisser he is at that point, not several dates or weeks down the road!

Closed lip kissing is for your relatives, not your dates.
LOL. I'm reminded of the first girl I took to the drive in movies when I was a teenager. Wow, was that a learning experience! lol
 
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sweetexodus wrote :
I know many of you all gone out on date but the real question is should you kiss ( french kiss ) on first date? or kiss on cheek only?
It depends on several variables, and if all 3 variables are in sync:

Do you both feel the vibe?

Is there enough chemistry to warrant a full-on lip lock?

Does your date have great dental care and thus not turn you off my cruddy teeth?

I say all this because I went on a first date with a guy that I felt great chemistry with, but as the date progressed I noticed that food kept getting stuck in between his teeth. He ordered a shrimp/crab fondue for an appetizer, which did not look sexy when he talked and smiled. Plus, as the date progressed I noticed he needed serious dental work...his teeth were not that attractive when he ate. I think it was the mix of a poor taste in selecting an appetizer, and the bad teeth that made him look and smell worse as the date progressed.

When he leaned down for a kiss at the end of the date, (sans a much-needed breath mint...and toothbrush), I politely offered my cheek and kept it moving. Needless to say he never heard from me or saw me ever again!

People...please keep up with dental care... and choose the appropriate appetizers/entrees when on a first date. Nobody wants to smell any possibly odorous foods or see food stuck between your teeth. Not attractive at all!!!!!!!!

I'm just sayin.....
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
Are you all for real? No one uses a tongue on the first date? Seriously?

I can't think of the last time I didn't have a good kiss at the end of a good first date, and it always includes "french kissing." It's either mutual, or I'll give him a little nudge so he knows it's okay. I've never had a guy complain! Most times he'll lean in for another. I want to know what kind of kisser he is at that point, not several dates or weeks down the road!

Closed lip kissing is for your relatives, not your dates.
Geez, no wonder I'm single - the guys I dated probably think I'm a nympho!

I'm with Wonder on this one (not that we're right), but my dates usually get no kiss or a french kiss...there's never been a gray area - like the aforementioned "family member peck".

I guess on my first EH date, if I get one (!!!), I'll take these kissing rules into consideration!
 
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legend29 wrote :
... and choose the appropriate appetizers/entrees when on a first date. Nobody wants to smell any possibly odorous foods or see food stuck between your teeth. Not attractive at all!!!!!!!!

I'm just sayin.....
Before I went on my date last week, we had agreed not to order any meal with garlic. She did anyway and I ordered the same thing after she did.
 
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