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I collect sock yarn. Not that I knit a lot of socks ... but I indulge myself in a b@ll or two ... I like squeezing them. lol. Ya, know?
- October 11th, 2009, 10:20 am
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Haven't left the house since Friday and haven't seen or spoken to anyone.

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- October 11th, 2009, 11:14 am
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I suppose this may be hijacking to a certain degree but some of these answers point to another question.

Have Americans become unsociable? As for myself, I find it draining -at times- to a certain degree to be exposed to the opinions of other people. There is so much 'hog wash' and Cynicism out there that it becomes tiresome, so I also restrict my exposure to the masses... which also helps me to stay out of jail I suppose...

Yesterday I saw one friend and one Walgreens check-out clerk. (I didn't expose myself to either one.)
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I collect sock yarn. Not that I knit a lot of socks ... but I indulge myself in a b@ll or two ... I like squeezing them. lol. Ya, know?
A friend of mine bought me something to squeeze, it's called a "Stress Willy" and you just squeeze it in your hand when stressed. Nice
- October 11th, 2009, 04:12 pm
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[quote=DennisWisconsin;766267]I suppose this may be hijacking to a certain degree but some of these answers point to another question.

Have Americans become unsociable? As for myself, I find it draining -at times- to a certain degree to be exposed to the opinions of other people. There is so much 'hog wash' and Cynicism out there that it becomes tiresome, so I also restrict my exposure to the masses... which also helps me to stay out of jail I suppose...

Yesterday I saw one friend and one Walgreens check-out clerk. (I didn't expose myself to either one.)

I am a little surprised by everyones answers here. Like I stated above I had a family get together and it is raining but I hit up the grocery store and ran into three people I knew and chatted with each. I like the fact that I can just bump into people I know and say hi, chatted about things done this weekend or happening next week. I also chatted with the store clerk and we hit up subway so two people working there. If the weather was better, we would have likely hit the park and seen people there. I go to the same grocery store all the time and I have chatted with people who work there. Maybe it is living in Texas but I do not get the solitude.
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Fleuellen wrote :

Number of other people spoken with during the day? Saturday

A >5 , B >10 , C >50 , D <50
I was visiting family, ran errands and was shopping. Talked or interacted mostly with women.

Number of member of the opposite sex that you spoke with during the day
A >1 , B > 5 , C > 10 , D <20
Guys I spoke to: coffee barista, 2 bank tellers, my brother, a contractor, a cute guy (with his girlfriend next to him!)

 Number of member of the opposite sex who you felt attractive that you spoke with during the day.
A Nil , B >1 , C> 5 , D > 10
The Cute Guy (who had the girlfriend and waaaay too young for me.) The barista and contractor caught my eye too. My brother is taboo and married for 34 years. But he's nice looking for his age (my biased opinion.)

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San Francisco, CA/ US. But I was just visiting.

My answers in blue.

I think there are fewer opportunities to interact when you're in a automobile-centric culture like the US. Most people have lost the art of conversation and friendly patter that helps in connecting with people. The tendency of people to cocoon at home with the HDTV, cable and sound system (and the internet) reduce the possibility of communication IRL.

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- October 11th, 2009, 05:15 pm
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So, you encountered people you already knew and retail employees performing their duty?

But no new strangers actually spoken to?

I spoke only to the grocery store cashier … and if I “stopped to chat” I probably would have been stabbed by someone waiting in line behind me!
- October 11th, 2009, 05:17 pm
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I guess I was wondering if America might be more an insular culture than otherwise. But that didn't gel with Americans I know or the openness and good nature of all those who answered.

Just to clarify, I was just proposing a crude people metre as to the number of people one spoke with; with no subject comment on the quality of conversation. ie, answering query about coupons, chatting to your brother-in-law, man with the lama or asking Zoe at the back of the class to look up.

As for whom one might find attractive, I guess that would be subjective. Some folk might unconsciously exclude anyone too young, married or even wrong sexual orientation. Myself, I merely take in anyone with nice figure, pleasant smile who I might pass by. So I guess answers to that question might value laden.


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I see answers included the amazing adventures at the "fibre fair" "have a nice day" out the checkout to a voluntary shut-in (I sometimes want to hide away too).

My thoughts though were numbers seem unduly on the low side. I'm kinda insular in nature myself, but couldn't avoid speaking in the "Bs" on almost anyway.

So my next idea was to ponder how we might push ourselves further down the alphabet. I talked about bikes and trains previously on EH. To give a couple of examples, yesterday while waiting for a train a group of young women in dressed in delightful saris sat on the bench next to me. I go up so these friends could sit together. One of them thanked my and I responded (simple interchange, initiated merely by I suppose courtesy and body language).

As I was standing a very attractive young women (lovely day completion, slim figure, gorgeous brown eyes) came up pushing her own bike. She had to huge parcel in bike basket (obviously a present of some kind). I made a remake how her ability to balance this parcel. She told it was globe and a present for her sister. Before she alighted from the train a few stops along I knew her first name, that she was teacher, where she was of to, and she knew I had an adolescent sons, where I'd be cycling, and what sort of work I did. And we’d discussed the merits of helping younger children deal with feelings of anger (all in about 5 min).

When I got of at my stop, I stood aside so an elderly man could get by on his walking frame. I jested with him about racing him down the ramp. He offered I might win on my bike (the bike is obviously a conversation piece, but it might have been a ball of fibres, a football beanie). I also told him that when I was his age, I'd like to be still getting about as he was.

I did note that he seemed in a bit of pain while walking, not just unsteady. I suppose he might have been more comfortable staying at home. But he had dressed up and headed out somewhere. It was his attitude I admired. I think it is one we can all do well to emulate.

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A friend of mine bought me something to squeeze, it's called a "Stress Willy" and you just squeeze it in your hand when stressed. Nice

Have you subsequently become more or less stressed?
- October 11th, 2009, 06:26 pm
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+ 1. Here in Toronto, I related to many just as you--it is what ai LOVE about living here. Wine with a friend, museum with my daughter to see a couple of exhibits, and a lovely Canadian vegetarian thanksgiving feast (daughter, no me). So many folks related to that were strangers, homeless, at the market, in our neighborhood. It is what makes this particulary city great. So, I solute your views on the world!
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