Sweetyflea is offline Sweetyflea Post #1  October 10,2009, 5:17pm
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I've been pondering this question since the end of my last relationship..... Is it better to wait and take your time in the dating scene and just let the relationship happen naturally....or rush into the dating scene and let the relationship crash and burn? I've read articles saying that if you rush into dating the relationship would crash and end badly. Since my last relationship, I really considered in taking it slow and not rush into the dating scene like it happened before. If I take it slow and take my time in the dating scene to let it flow naturally into a relationship, would the guy I'd be dating be worth the wait for a healthy relationship?

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I may just be stoopid but I really don't understand what you are asking here.
 
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I'm asking if it's better to take your time in the dating scene rather than rush it? Sorry I should of clarify it better.
 
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Take your time and let things develop naturally. Trying to force it won't do anyone any favors.

Thing is, you (all of us 'you') make mistakes anyway, no matter how prepared we think we are, so be prepared to have some setbacks and cut yourself some slack. Just try to be kind to all, including yourself.
 
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Are you asking about dating in general or a a particular person you are dating?

If you're talking about "taking it slow" we are beating a dead horse.. There are numerous threads under that exact title..
 
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CaptCrunch23 wrote :
Are you asking about dating in general or a a particular person you are dating?
Not much of the beating the dead horse (I've seen those threads) , but there is a particular person that I've hangout with for about 2 years during those times build up a good relationship. And the thing that bugs me is can hanging out be the same thing as dating or does that have a different meaning?
 
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I think you answered your own question towards the end of your post.
 
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Sweetyflea wrote :
Not much of the beating the dead horse (I've seen those threads) , but there is a particular person that I've hangout with for about 2 years during those times build up a good relationship. And the thing that bugs me is can hanging out be the same thing as dating or does that have a different meaning?
2 yrs of hanging out.. I would call that a friendship or FWB not a relationship.

You can 'hang out" with someone in the beginning.. but at some point it needs to progress to dating. So I would think there is a difference.

I hang out with my friends.. I spend time with my girlfriends.
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I really don't know how you can force dating. If you are suggesting that taking it slow and letting dating develop naturally is sitting at home and waiting for some guy to fall out of the sky into your lap, then that ain't likely to happen. If by rushing it, you mean that you are proactive in looking for guys to date then yes you should be proactive.

Since I still am not sure what you are asking about I will throw out some of my wisdom that I have posted many times before. Maybe this will help.

You should be proactive in contacting your matches. Unless there is a red flag that is a deal breaker you should contact all of your matches. You should approach dating from the standpoint of dating for the sake of dating not as if the only person you are going to go out with is going to be "the one". You should go out with almost anyone at least once. You should go on a date for the fun you may have, you might learn something about the other person and your might learn something about yourself.

Here is an oldie but goody. Just because you go out with one guy on a first date does not mean that you are exclusive and can't also date someone else at the same time.

Maybe something here answers your question.
 
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CaptCrunch23 wrote :
2 yrs of hanging out.. I would call that a friendship or FWB not a relationship
It's a friendship not a FWB. I've always thought that if you start out as friends first could it lead to dating then maybe a relationship? I guess it kinda depends.
 
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