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I've been talking to a guy for about 2 weeks now, and we're planning to hangout in a few days. The problem I'm having is that I'm somewhat embarassed to tell my friends that I'm hanging out with a guy I met on eharmony. I'm only 21, so not many people my age understand...because most of them are out meeting people at bars/parties.

Can anyone else relate? And if so, do you have any advice?
- October 10th, 2009, 12:41 am
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There is still a stigma of desperation to meeting someone on a dating site, and sometimes a kneejerk assumption that people who meet online meet on sex sites or chatrooms where the hookup is the goal.
About all i can say for advice though is if it bothers you then don't tell people you met online, tell them you met where you had your first date, it's true in a manner of speaking.
More and more people are using dating sites now though, just look at the membership numbers of the sites, so the odd looks from people judging you for not being able to get a "proper" date should be on the wane, much more chance these days that anyone you tell is on a dating site themselves.
- October 10th, 2009, 12:59 am
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That's easy. You tell your friends in about 10 years from now, when they are complaining to you about their miserable existence with their partners they met at the bars/parties and are begging you to reveal the secret of your happily-ever-after with the guy you met at.. well, you know.

OK, this time serious. Where did you meet him in person for the first time? If it's a coffee shop, than tell your friends you met him there. The rest is on the need to know basis and it sound like your friends, considering their maturity level, do not need to know
- October 10th, 2009, 01:10 am
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I guess there is an perception that those who resort to online dating websites somehow lack the social skills to flirt with the opposite sex in real life.

Personally I could not care less, I am on EH because I am very busy between my job and hobbies and my socializing is only with known friends and I don't care to hit on random women, it's just not my thing. My suggestion, don't give a damn, it's your life you can do whatever you want.
- October 10th, 2009, 01:14 am
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In this day and age it's not at all embarrassing to have met on a dating site. My children and friends thought it was cool when I signed up.
- October 10th, 2009, 02:40 am
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If you are embarassed to say you met on EH, then tell them something else. I am in my mid 20s, but I do not feel like meeting people at the bar or parties. My last serious relationship was with someone who I met online. We were together for 6 and half years, and lived together for 6 years. We told people close to use where we met, but she did not tell some people how we really met. After a long while, everyone knew how we met. It brought a good side to online dating to both parties. My family and her family knew there are nice people on the internet, and they are as regular as the next person. By the way, I met my ex gf when she was 18 and I was 19. If I was to meet someone online again, I would not hesitate to tell people. If the girl was uncomfortable, I would go with she says. The thing with online dating is not being embarassed really. It is about the misconception of it consisting of perverts to hostile individuals. Let me ask you this then. Are you really embarassed, or you worried because people around you might have a negative view of online dating?
- October 10th, 2009, 03:30 am
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First you may want to check out the book:

Romancing The Web: A Therapist's Guide To The Finer Points Of Online Dating

it addresses why you would want to use an online dating site and how to reply to this very question.

Then you may ask yourself and your friends just what type of people you usually find in bars?
- October 10th, 2009, 06:14 am
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If I find someone on EH I want to be their poster child for the next batch of EH commercials

The things in life we should be embarrassed about we often aren't. Never let yourself feel shy about being proactive in bringing happiness and love into your life. Maybe you'll start a hot new trend within your circle of friends. I hope you have fun and enjoy many of positive experiences.
- October 10th, 2009, 06:40 am
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I think the question is....are you going to buy into a negative perception some people may have...or are you going to stand by your own perception?

When I dated a woman I met on eH for 3 months I told my parents how we met, and they're people who don't 'believe' in such things. I've told a number of guy friends that I'm on a couple dating sites and they think nothing of it.
- October 10th, 2009, 06:45 am
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It's possible your friends will be supportive, yes? And interested in your experience. You will like being able to talk to them about it.

If not, maybe you need some new friends!
- October 10th, 2009, 10:41 am
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