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thanks for the replies everyone.

it's not my close friends that i'm worried about, because they already know i'm a member at eharmony. I'm more worried about people I work with finding out, especially my ex. I don't know why I care so much what people think, I wish I didn't.
- October 10th, 2009, 10:47 am
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Ah. You care because you're human. You could tell people you're not close with "we were introduced by a mutual friend" -- the "friend" being eH. It's a virtual friend!

Everybody cares what other people think about them. As you get older it just becomes "interesting" rather than "omigod what will they think".
- October 10th, 2009, 11:00 am
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Trust me it is ok to feel that way. You are not the only one who feels that way. I get matches all the time, and they state we will tell people we met at starkbucks or something like that haha. If you got in a serious relationship though, you might want to tell people how you really met. I know it is a key momemt for a women when in a serious relationship. For now, you can say you met through a friend. However, you might tell people the real story if it becomes serious. This is due to you being in love, and not really caring what a person thinks at this point on how you met.
- October 10th, 2009, 11:29 am
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If you are ok with your friends knowing that is the key. People at work? Meh, who cares.

I always told my friends how I met the last two exes.

One person from work who isn't a friend at all asked about the most recent ex. I told him, but he's not really the kind of guy I care too much what he thinks about me.
- October 10th, 2009, 11:41 am
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Andrea8823;

I met my fiancée on eHarmony, and I have no quarrels telling people where or how we met. In fact, most of the time people think it's really neat that we met each other that way. (They'll even ask if we are going to be on one of the commercials.) I am not aware of anyone looking at it negatively, and if they did, who cares? I know we're both happy, madly in love, and excited about the future we get to share with each other. Why should I give a you-know-what about someone else's opinion of the way we met? Most people should would kill to be in our shoes.

I say, be proud of how you met and don't the fear of others bring you down.
- October 10th, 2009, 01:57 pm
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Interestingly...when I was at Penn State I went out with a woman who worked on the university staff. She had a whole group of friends who all met their spouses via online dating sites. Maybe I was supposed to be hers. : / lol
- October 10th, 2009, 02:02 pm
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I answer the question literally e.g.

Question: Where did you two meet?

Answer : At Starbucks... at a wine tasting.. you get the idea.

No one needs to know the details or the hows of our meeting. No shame on my part it's just none of anyone's business.
- October 10th, 2009, 02:51 pm
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I met my last bf on eharmony a few years ago when I was in my late 20's. I told my friends and family where we met, but I lied to my coworkers b/c I didn't wan't to be judged and I also didn't feel that it was any of their business. That relationship lasted 2 yrs. and even though we're not together now, every once in a while my boss will still ask me how I met my ex and I have to stick to my original lie. I hate lying but obviously I can't come clean to her now. So, anyway, my point is that you should just tell your friends the truth b/c what if you become serious with someone? Then you will have to lie to your friends over and over. Just tell them the truth-if they're your friends, then they'll be supportive. Its 2009-not 1989! There's nothing to be ashamed of!
- October 10th, 2009, 09:10 pm
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Alli824 wrote :
I answer the question literally e.g.

Question: Where did you two meet?

Answer : At Starbucks... at a wine tasting.. you get the idea.

No one needs to know the details or the hows of our meeting. No shame on my part it's just none of anyone's business.
I agree with this approach.

You know there just aren't that many venues to meet nice people. Bars? You're looking at mostly drunks, players, married men etc. The gym ... mostly married or far too young for may age group. Work? yeah right ... and if it doesn't work out you and he are water cooler conversation, not to mention having to run into them more often than you'd like. The grocery store? Over avocados and tomatoes? Please ... be serious.

This is as good a place as any to meet someone I think. And at least if they are a paying member of EH, they are probably honestly looking, the same as you.
- October 10th, 2009, 09:26 pm
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I my self don’t mind saying I met people on EH. Nobody is perfect that they can find the perfect partner by them self’s.
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I have met people in bars, museums etc and found out later on that we were not even close to being compatible. I my self am horrible with small talk with someone I hardly know. With EH at least I know the people selected for me are in the same ball park. I wish EH was around years ago.
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What do you care what people think about you? If it makes you feel uneasy then say you met at Starbucks.
- October 11th, 2009, 11:53 am
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