imconfused is offline imconfused Post #1  October 9,2009, 7:59pm
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Just need someone to tell me if I'm right or not. So I have gone out on two dates with someone I met here. We barley talk when were not out on a date, but we have great conversations during our dates. Our first date was getting coffee and that was about 2 hours. Our 2nd date was over lunch and that was about 3 hours.

We never talk on the phone or even text that much. I guess I am trying to figure out whether she likes me or not. During our dates we have eye contact and laugh and everything is great. There is hardly any silence. I just never hear from her unless I text her. Sometimes she will reply back in 10 seconds and other times 30 minutes to an hour. How can I tell if I'm wasting my time on her? Or do I just need to give it more time?

Not sure if this will help, but our conversations are conversations you don't have with just anyone. She has told me about her family and about the loss of her mother and that shes not that close to her dad. I have told her about my family and what some of likes and dislikes are. Our conversations are pretty detailed and I;m not sure if this is a sign of her liking me and trusting me or what.
 
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GEF2 is offline GEF2 Post #2  October 11,2009, 4:24pm
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It sounds like she likes you. I would stop the texting and give her a call. Maybe she's not really into texting and is waiting for you to call her and ask her out on a 3rd date. You're over thinking it (I usually do the same thing). All you should really be going on is how she acts when you're on dates and to me, it seems like she's into you. Good luck.
 
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Yep, I would be fine with this.

Usually it is the woman complaining this way.

Just be attentive that she is not controlling the timing, patterns, or methods of communication in a way that could conceal a current partner.
 
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Sounds like she likes you. Some women want men to initiate contact. And yes, you should call her. If she keeps wanting to go on dates with you then she likes you!
 
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starbucks18 wrote :
Sounds like she likes you. Some women want men to initiate contact. And yes, you should call her. If she keeps wanting to go on dates with you then she likes you!
I agree with this person.

You've only been on two dates. I'm sure she likes you somewhat or she'd have turned you down for date 2. Does she like you like you? It's probably too soon even for her to know that.

I generally prefer to let the guy initiate at least in the beginning of things.
 
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I think your girl has been reading some of the posts from members on this board!
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Ouch!
 
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imconfused wrote :
Hello All,

Just need someone to tell me if I'm right or not. So I have gone out on two dates with someone I met here. We barley talk when were not out on a date, but we have great conversations during our dates. Our first date was getting coffee and that was about 2 hours. Our 2nd date was over lunch and that was about 3 hours.

We never talk on the phone or even text that much. I guess I am trying to figure out whether she likes me or not. During our dates we have eye contact and laugh and everything is great. There is hardly any silence. I just never hear from her unless I text her. Sometimes she will reply back in 10 seconds and other times 30 minutes to an hour. How can I tell if I'm wasting my time on her? Or do I just need to give it more time?

Not sure if this will help, but our conversations are conversations you don't have with just anyone. She has told me about her family and about the loss of her mother and that shes not that close to her dad. I have told her about my family and what some of likes and dislikes are. Our conversations are pretty detailed and I;m not sure if this is a sign of her liking me and trusting me or what.
Honestly you are so overthinking this. Not responding to a text in that time frame is not worth worrying about maybe she does not have her phone with her, maybe she is busy, maybe she can not think of how to respond. 30 minutes to an hour is nothing. I leave my phone in my purse and do not always hear it. At work I often am too focused to respond right away and when I am out I will not always respond to texts. Chill out.
 
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starbucks18 wrote :
Sounds like she likes you. Some women want men to initiate contact. And yes, you should call her. If she keeps wanting to go on dates with you then she likes you!
While this concept has been said by others I will use this post to disagree with this. She may well like the OP or it could be that he asks her out and she has nothing else going on so goes out with him. BTDT!
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
She may well like the OP or it could be that he asks her out and she has nothing else going on so goes out with him. BTDT!

Not sure how the volume of calling changes this risk?

If anything, a lot of calling may be stated as a sign of loneliness and desperation instead of interest. This is simply a risk a man must accept – though he mitigates this risk somewhat by not continuing with women who do not contribute.

In either case, simply for being with you, you get the chance to demonstrate yourself, and make her interested.
 
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