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jayjay wrote :
That's interesting. How long were you in relationships with these 6? For me, a relationship would have to be at least 6 months...or more likely a year, for me to consider it 'serious', regardless of what the feelings were in it.

For me, things are "serious" when someone uses the L word. And that had better happen before six months!! You also should consider the fact that three of the six relationships happened in Argentina, where I'm from, and where the rules of dating are so different that sometimes I feel like a little alien in this country! HA!!

In any case, for me the seriousness is derived from exclusive dating coupled with the L word. But that said, I haven't dated all that much as it is... always using my (now so decreasing it's not even funny) weight as the excuse.

Hey people, check it out!! 42 lbs lighter since April and *still* dating losers!! YEAY ME!!

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For me, things are "serious" when someone uses the L word. And that had better happen before six months!! You also should consider the fact that three of the six relationships happened in Argentina, where I'm from, and where the rules of dating are so different that sometimes I feel like a little alien in this country! HA!!
Thanks. FYI...one of the 3 'serious' relationships I've been in took place just across the Rio de la Plata from your Argentina.
 
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For me, things are "serious" when someone uses the L word. And that had better happen before six months!!

Is this serious?

That sounds far too soon.
 
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jayjay wrote :
Thanks. FYI...one of the 3 'serious' relationships I've been in took place just across the Rio de la Plata from your Argentina.
Oh cool!! Wadda ya think? Do South American women carry more or less baggage than American women? Let's generalize!!

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D_Lion wrote :
Is this serious?

That sounds far too soon.

For you, an American, yes of course. For me, an Argentinean, it sounds perfect. We process relationships WAAAAY differently back south, ya know? This is why sometimes dating American men for me is like, well, dating men from Mars!

Of the three relationships that took place on US soil, two were with foreign-born residents (one was a citizen, the other one wasn't)... so... you do the math

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D_Lion wrote :
Is this serious?

That sounds far too soon.
If I've continued seeing a woman for 6 months I expect I'd love her and be telling her so at that point. Heck....we've had people on this forum getting engaged in that much time and everyone here falls all over themselves congratulating him/her. For me that IS too soon for an engagement.
 
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This thread is a perfect opportunity to reference a past thread. (See >Dating Advice Forum>Dating Advice >Relationships, How do you deal with baggage?)

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".....Once, while waiting at The Philadelphia Airport for a plane headed to Chicago, I watched people carrying, dropping, pulling from behind, sleeping on, and transporting baggage. I told myself this is what it means to have baggage.....The "baggage" you are referencing is synonymous with "woundedness". To say you have "baggage" is to say you are wounded, and if this applies, then recognition is essential for healing, or ridding of said "baggage".
.....I believe healing is more preferable than woundedness.... Now I will conclude with a little humor(i.e. answer your question here) ...Of course the next time someone has baggage you could decide to help carry it....."


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Last edited by dnnmllr; October 10,2009 at 9:58am. Reason: how much = maybe a carry on in the overhead compartment?
 
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jayjay wrote :
If I've continued seeing a woman for 6 months I expect I'd love her and be telling her so at that point. Heck....we've had people on this forum getting engaged in that much time and everyone here falls all over themselves congratulating him/her. For me that IS too soon for an engagement.

I concur on both points. Serious does not have to equal marriage or engagement, just simply a mutual agreement of sharing life and, of course, love. The rest will fall into place depending on so many variables it's not even possible to start analyzing it!

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His profile shows him to be member of the Texans group but he admits to being from NJ. So I do not know why his profile helps.

I ask as my ex was a CPA total logic non emotion person. I am a CPA as well but I do have emotions. I guess it is a curiosity. I do not know how a person can live without emotions.
His profile also says that he has a degree in accounting.
 
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funnyengineergal wrote :
Oh cool!! Wadda ya think? Do South American women carry more or less baggage than American women? Let's generalize!!

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I travel light. I only have as much baggage as the airline will allow me to carry on.
 
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