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lacedwithhope is offline lacedwithhope — Advice Member-Moderator Post #21  October 9,2009, 7:10pm
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Unless we've lived in a bubble, we all have had experience with others disappointing us, or things not working out the way we'd hoped: jobs, family, relationships, etc. I believe that it's these experiences that lead to "issues." We all have some -- I much prefer the term "issue" over the word 'baggage,' which reminds me of how annoying it is when some men refer to children as 'encumberances.'

Like the others said, it's how we deal with our issues that matters, in some cases, moreso than what the issues are. For me, if issues include substance abuse or significant trust problems / jealousy, then that's more than I will put up with. To the OP: when people start relationships for the wrong reasons (lonliness, etc.) you are correct that we may overlook issues that are significant. But only you can decide what issues are deal-breakers. Good luck.
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LizziePooh wrote :
I don't know if I just started understanding suddenly ( or at least understanding most of the time) or if he actually changed his approach a little to make more user-friendly.

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Mr. D_Lion, you are always rational and unbiased. But could you please lay back a bit? I'm afraid that you will scare some of your potential matches. Or even...um...LOL....( I won't type out..'coz you will scold me )
 
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Darn...they almost made you human!!!
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
You could look at his profile and get a clue
HIs profile shows him to be member of the Texans group but he admits to being from NJ. So I do not know why his profile helps.

I ask as my ex was a CPA total logic non emotion person. I am a CPA as well but I do have emotions. I guess it is a curiousity. I do not know how a person can live without emotions.
 
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melman wrote :
What difference does it make?

And for that matter, what is your beef with accountants and/or engineers?

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melman wrote :
What difference does it make?

And for that matter, what is your beef with accountants and/or engineers?
So you think I have a beef with D-Lion? As I said above I am a CPA and I have very dear friends who are engineers and accountants.

Just trying to figure him out.
 
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I think you should get out of the country and see the city.
 
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But you didn't ask if he was an artist or a plumber or a Chippendale's performer. There was something behind the question... I just don't know what it was.
 
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tjlpd wrote :
Just trying to figure him out.
lol! Join the club.

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I think it comes down to one answer to one question, does DL feel things??

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Or maybe he tells us the answer and we just never believe it?? Ha! Ha! - Total girls!
 
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