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gothustartus wrote :
Well there are so many varieties to choose from in Europe, Bitish stiff-upper-lipidness, French you-know-you-can't-resist-my-accent-unless-you're-a-lesbianess, Italian you-can't-dump-me-just-because-i-slept-with-your-sister-mother-and-grannyness...
Hmmm. That Italian thing explains a lot ...
- October 11th, 2009, 01:31 pm
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If a person is looking for someone to heal themselves, then that's a problem. We're responsible for our own issues. But if we find someone that cares for us, and that could be a friend or a romantic interest, and they work with us, then, yes, people can heal each other -- as long as those who are injured are willing to work on their own healing. I've seen this happen many times, not just in my life, but in the lives of those I know in rehab programs or groups like AA and I saw it happening when I worked in treatment.
I see your point.
- October 11th, 2009, 03:48 pm
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I see your point.
I think you may have been thinking in a more direct line, as in I cannot heal you. (I'm not saying you're broken, just an example!) But if you and I come together and both are willing to work, then we can help each other heal. It still comes down to the responsibility of each individual, though.

Does that mean we're both right?
- October 11th, 2009, 04:02 pm
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I think with the right person I would be willing to put up with more stuff and try to work through more things. I don't think I can put an actual number on how much baggage I would accept or wouldn't accept, each person and situation is very different.
- October 11th, 2009, 05:50 pm
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(I'm not saying you're broken, just an example!)

Did you check her feet?
- October 11th, 2009, 05:55 pm
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stevex wrote :
I think with the right person I would be willing to put up with more stuff and try to work through more things. I don't think I can put an actual number on how much baggage I would accept or wouldn't accept, each person and situation is very different.
So the amount of baggage one has doesn't at all determine how "right" someone is for you?
- October 11th, 2009, 06:10 pm
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Okay asking this again D lion and you can be generic but what do you do for a living...accountant, engineer???
What are you saying about those careers?

Are you bringing some baggage into this discussion caused by and accountant and/or engineer?
- October 11th, 2009, 06:11 pm
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I see your point.
I think you may have been thinking in a more direct line, as in I cannot heal you. (I'm not saying you're broken, just an example!) But if you and I come together and both are willing to work, then we can help each other heal. It still comes down to the responsibility of each individual, though.

Does that mean we're both right?
Actually, I get where you are coming from and I think you are saying what a lot of people think but I disagree with you.
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Did you check her feet?
No and he didn't step on them either.

They just healed on their own. Still hurt a little, though.
- October 11th, 2009, 06:17 pm
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EMTZ wrote :
So the amount of baggage one has doesn't at all determine how "right" someone is for you?

You question his choice?

I think just about everyone will put up with more of a liability in a partner who also brings more attractive qualities.

This is nearly implicit, in that no one is perfect.
- October 11th, 2009, 06:35 pm
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shoopthedoop wrote :
What are you saying about those careers?

Are you bringing some baggage into this discussion caused by and accountant and/or engineer?
discussed verbatim above...and I am a CPA so if I am insulting the group I am insulting myself.
- October 11th, 2009, 06:43 pm
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