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My standard length of "relationship" is usually about 3 weeks. I guess I make guys comfortable enough to be their true obnoxious selves in that amount of time. Personally, I'd rather meet and find out early, as opposed to wasting time communicating with an image someone is trying to project.
The only matches I have met IRL that we didn't try things for at least three weeks was because they chose to end it earlier - with one exception.

You will always get the people who feel the chemistry isn't there and won't proceed after the first date, so I have had a number of matches closed on me after the first date. I do judge pictures and close communications with people I couldn't see the chemistry being there with.

I will give people the benefit of the doubt that they could have been nervous/anxious/jittery on the first two dates. By the third date people will tend to relax enough to get to see the real person and you have a feeling if things could be taken to the next level.

The one exception was the woman clearly not feeling the 'chemistry' on our first date and was quite obnoxiously rude about it. I'm sure I just beat her to the punch in closing the match right after the meeting.
 
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