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k374 is offline k374 Post #1  October 9,2009, 8:35am
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For those that are physically fit and NOT overweight:

- Do you view someone who is heavier than you to be incompatible with your lifestyle?

- Do you accept the argument from some people who say they have no control over their weight and it is just their bad luck?

- What is the heaviest person you will accept to date?
 
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I am somewhat on the slim side and would rather suspect that every girl I have dated has weighed more than me. Some have been quite athletic and fit. Some have been quite "soft". It is not totally about the weight but about THEIR lifestyle that would make them compatible with my lifestyle.

While some people are built in a more stocky way than others, with rare exception weight is really about what you eat and the amount of exercise you get. What you eat, how much you eat and how much you exercise are things that you can control and therefore you can control your weight.

I have never asked how much my matches / dates weigh. If when we meet I go then I am not going to be interested.
 
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It's not weight alone, it's height / weight proportion. I'm almost 6' 2" and just over 200 pounds. If I met a 6' + woman who was 200 pounds that would probably be OK with me. But I only got matched with short chicks.
 
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I'm thinkin this topic is gonna flame fast. But here goes nothin.

People are different, we all have different preferances from weight
to height to teeth an complection an jus everything.

Myself, I dont care how heavy ya are within reason. I mean I dout that I'ma be attracked to a man that is morbidly obesse.
But I've dated guys quite a bit bigger than myself, an my most recent ex was quite a bit smaller than myself.
The fella that I'm talkin to right now is bout 6'2 an weighs bout 190-maybe 210 at the max. I am about 6in shorter an weigh 20 or 30 pounds more than him an he thinks I'm pretty so....

Like I said, it all depends on ya preferences. I also think it depends on how ya carry ya self too. I dont really look that big, but I'm top heavy so blah.
 
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I'm 5'3 and weigh 130 pounds but am only a size US 8 as I due to exercising a lot have some muscle. There's a huge difference if the weight is fat or muscle so you can't judge people on the weight alone.

My ex-husband was 6'5 and weighed 260 pounds and he was fat. My ex-BF was 6'1 and weighed 210 pounds but it was all muscle.
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Good lord. So since I am overweight I guess I'll just keep my mouth shut. This is a stupid thread. Why don't you ask how thin would I date or how ugly would I date? Its all about physical attractiveness and what the other person is seeking.
 
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i try to keep my weight under 200 lbs...
 
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k374 wrote :
For those that are physically fit and NOT overweight:

- Do you view someone who is heavier than you to be incompatible with your lifestyle?

- Do you accept the argument from some people who say they have no control over their weight and it is just their bad luck?

- What is the heaviest person you will accept to date?
oh! you mean the other person...

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smileatjen wrote :
Good lord. So since I am overweight I guess I'll just keep my mouth shut. This is a stupid thread. Why don't you ask how thin would I date or how ugly would I date? Its all about physical attractiveness and what the other person is seeking.
Gee....I'm glad you decided to keep your mouth shut.
 
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I'm seeing two EH guys right now.

One is about 5 inches taller than I am (he's 5'10". We're both on the heavier side but also athletic (we both run 1/2 marathons.)

The other is 6'1" and might be a bit heavier, but the height helps spread his weight around. But as much as he says he works out and eats healthfully, I don't think he's in as good shape (he seems a little doughy to me.)

I think it's not so much the weight as how toned some one looks, and how s/he carries him/ herself. Good posture, active mind and body, positive energy really count for a lot.
 
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