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Faira is offline Faira Post #41  October 10,2009, 12:38pm
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hogrally wrote :
See how tired I am of weight threads?

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WAIT!! I love men who wait.. until I am seated before sitting themselves. I love men who wait to hold a door open for whoever is behind them. Even if they don't know them. But wait.....Am I not in the "why I love men thread!! Slaps forehead with palm sighh......Ohh well since I am here I might as well confess. I have been attracted to alot and yes even loved one or two men. I loved them regardless what a scale says their weight is. The last guy I dated quit smoking and over 6 months gained weight. So? Who Cares? I sure didn't
Please enough already. Just let it go.
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This much beaten question again. Everyone has quite different tastes, and if they don't find you appealing then they weren't worth your time anyway.

My brother is built and he loves a voluptuous woman. In fact he usually finds the toned/twiggy look to be rather unappealing.

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Jacquesne wrote :



There's a huge difference between a woman losing ten pounds from her stomach compared to her breasts.
If she has ten pounds to lose there, they must be bodaciously bountiful b**bs...
 
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Ok, I'll try to answer the original questions...

- Do you view someone who is heavier than you to be incompatible with your lifestyle? do you mean to ask if i view someone who is 'heavy' to be incompatible? Because I have a rule that a man had better outweigh me by a good 40-50 pounds before I date him. I'm 5'6" and a muscular 120lbs. I am not particularly attracted to very slender guys. I like bigger, more muscular guys that look like they can pick me up and throw me around like I weigh nothing. However, I am not attracted to 'heavy' men and I do view them as being incompatible with my lifestyle choices. I thoroughly enjoy working out and engaging in physical activities like tennis, rockclimbing, swimming, etc. I'd want my SO to enjoy those things too. I also enjoy eating healthfully and find that I do best with other health conscious people because we like the same restaurants and they enjoy my cooking more.

- Do you accept the argument from some people who say they have no control over their weight and it is just their bad luck? No. I do not. A very very small percentage of individuals have a true hormonal problem. For the other 99.9% of the population, I think it is a matter of choice. I come from a big family. My brothers are 6'6" and 6'3", and they are 350 and 300lbs respectively. I used to be about 45lbs heavier. I've done a complete 180 from my old lifestyle. My brothers don't exercise and eat massive quantities of unhealthy food. It is their choice.

- What is the heaviest person you will accept to date?
As others have mentioned, it is about proportion and ratio or muscle and fat. I can't really put a number on it, but I'd be hard pressed to date someone that weighed more than 230.
 
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As a heavy woman, I find this a bit offensive. Any man who just clicks right on past me because of my size is losing out on a great opportunity for a great partner. I am a hard working single mom. I am a great teacher. I am intelligent and a very devoted partner and lover. I am who and what I am and I make no apologies for it. If you don't want me because of my size, that is your loss.

What is the shallowest you will accept?
 
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I think the question of -how heavy is too heavy- is strictly based on personal preference. I, myself, wouldn't be too comfortable dating a woman taller/heavier than me... but that puts me in a horrible situation because I'm only 5'4 /120 lbs. I'm in very good shape, as I either roadbike 10 miles or run 3 miles every day (trust me, this doesn't effect my weight -I just can't keep the lbs on) and I'd be looking for someone who I could possibly do those activities with.

On the other hand, I work with a guy who's my age and has 4inches/40lbs on me and he won't date a woman if she's even remotely thin.

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Let's see, first, I'm 5'7", 145.

Based on my height, and from what I have learned from the advice boards, the tallest woman that I can get would be 5'1", because a 6" taller minimum is needed (guy needs to be 3" taller when she wears 3" heels). And I'm pretty sure many women also do not prefer to weigh more than their mates. And then, a woman who is 5'1" doesn't have to weigh a heck of a lot before she becomes chunky.

You know, I might be pretty set....
 
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
Let's see, first, I'm 5'7", 145.

Based on my height, and from what I have learned from the advice boards, the tallest woman that I can get would be 5'1", because a 6" taller minimum is needed (guy needs to be 3" taller when she wears 3" heels).
The height thing is an issue only if you plan to find someone online. In real life I know several guys who are with girls their height or some even taller than them...the key thing is that they did not meet online.
 
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for me, too thin is unnattractive, if it's unhealthy-looking, with no muscle tone.

too big is not good either, if it's all around the belly and the guy has stick arms- same concept as above.

so, anything from wiry to husky is ok for me. i think a little pudginess on a guy is kinda cute. and wiry guys have sexy forearms. I'm pretty easy to please, lol.
 
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CO throws her head back and sings:
"he ain't heavy ... he's my brotha!"

Yeah, I'm tired of the "quantify my body" threads. I understand them but they are disheartening. I don't understand why the short guys ... bald guys ... husky guys ... don't get that MANY women aren't turned off by them ... when we actually bother to post.

Seriously. I'm tall and ... well ... usually thin. I'm sporting about 7 more pounds than usual because I fractured my foot this summer.

A man made me turn all the way around and run into something Friday ... and he was a good 3? inches shorter than I am. He smiled. I guess, he, at least, knew.
 
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