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If I was really wrong, you wouldn't be saying "Hopefully losing weight will give me the edge I need". Because then you will start losing your hair, if you aren't already. It's always something. Get on with things instead of delaying due to this or that perceived flaw you think you may have. Time waits for no man.
- October 9th, 2009, 08:59 pm
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melman wrote :
If I was really wrong, you wouldn't be saying "Hopefully losing weight will give me the edge I need". Because then you will start losing your hair, if you aren't already. It's always something. Get on with things instead of delaying due to this or that perceived flaw you think you may have. Time waits for no man.
I hear on the "Time waits for no man" thing.

I still go out there and try to meet people. And I have made changes my lifestyle to a healthy eating lifestyle and have gradualy lost weight. I wish it would magically come off faster, thats what frustrates me, but I am sticking to my plan as its working.
- October 9th, 2009, 09:08 pm
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Seriously, there are very few truly physically beautiful people. Most of us are not quite perfect and being thinner than someone else certainly isn't going to make up for an ugly face or a very flawed personality.

Society has conditioned us to believe various looks were beautiful. Over the years our image of a beautiful women ranged from the rounded Renaissance woman to the Jayne Mansfields, to Twiggy and finally to the more toned woman of today. From voluptuous heifers to women who could easily be confused with little boys, there have always been men whose hearts would beat a little faster when we were near.

Thank God for variety in people and in tastes!
- October 10th, 2009, 12:19 am
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agoodplace wrote :
Seriously, there are very few truly physically beautiful people. Most of us are not quite perfect and being thinner than someone else certainly isn't going to make up for an ugly face or a very flawed personality.

Society has conditioned us to believe various looks were beautiful. Over the years our image of a beautiful women ranged from the rounded Renaissance woman to the Jayne Mansfields, to Twiggy and finally to the more toned woman of today. From voluptuous heifers to women who could easily be confused with little boys, there have always been men whose hearts would beat a little faster when we were near.

Thank God for variety in people and in tastes!
I have been preaching about how I am losing weight and changed my lifestyle around. And I have had a lot of success and my health is better.

I feel like its important I start taking care of myself in my older years. I am a successful, intelligent, hard-working, goal-oriented person. Having a obese, unhealthy body to go with that just does go well with who I am and doesn't project the vibes I want to project.

I feel like I have a lot of potential and am wasting it because I let myself go, and its a fact being obese is a turnoff and a major reason why I cant attract a mate.

So I am losing weight so I can be energetic and healthy and confident to be active again doing things I like, and I am losing weight so I can project to women who I really am.
- October 10th, 2009, 12:37 am
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Mokkesofie wrote :
I'm not Jen but I'll give my input. As long as I can't lift him up I'm fine
How much can you lift?
- October 10th, 2009, 01:02 am
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k374 wrote :
For those that are physically fit and NOT overweight:

- Do you view someone who is heavier than you to be incompatible with your lifestyle?

- Do you accept the argument from some people who say they have no control over their weight and it is just their bad luck?

- What is the heaviest person you will accept to date?

Since tall chicks are allowed to say they don't want to date short men, then I'm allowed to say as an athlete I don't want to date a blob. I've dated bbw and they can be more sexier and make a better partner than a regular woman.

But at this stage of my life, I want to date a woman who is in shape. I put in the hours to stay in shape. Why shouldn't I ask for the same?

Yes I accept the arguement that some people are born with genes that make them skinny, muscular or heavy. So it must be a lot harder for them to lose weight if they are predisposed to be heavy.
- October 10th, 2009, 01:44 am
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peg099 wrote :
How much can you lift?
Depends on if he's cute and hot
Last edited by Mokkesofie; October 10th, 2009 at 03:27 am. Reason: ...if he's hot and heavy, I'll give him a lift
- October 10th, 2009, 02:36 am
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pds857 wrote :
Why does your post show up blue on my screen? your the only one that does, like ... the box around ya post ...
jayjay answered it already but CLs show up with a special border =). And since he called me a suck up I regretfully inform you that jayjay is no longer a member of our community.

Kidding! See the Meet Your Volunteer Community Leaders! (Meet your Volunteer Community Leaders!) and New Community Leaders!! (Meet your Volunteer Community Leaders!) threads for a list of CLs and a brief description of what we do. I hope that answers your question but if you would like additional information feel free to private message me or another community leader for more information.

Perhaps if I'd actually given a more concrete answer it would have been more clear but in all honestly I'm a bit tired of repeating myself in weight threads so I went for (obviously flat) humor . Oh well. I guess I'm the only one who finds humor in a repeating decimal place for weight, a number that must have a real end. Ignore that.

Weight means almost nothing. Body shape, proportion, health...these things have meaning. The average woman is going to have a higher percent body fat than the average man simply because of how we develop. It's where that fat is located that matters as well as the proportion to body size. The average man is going to weigh more than the average woman simply because muscle is more dense and thus heavier than fat. These things have almost nothing to do with attraction. There's a huge difference between a woman losing ten pounds from her stomach compared to her breasts.

Thus this question doesn't really have a quantifiable answer. So I gave a ridiculously accurate one that has as little meaning as the answer above.

See how tired I am of weight threads?

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- October 10th, 2009, 11:51 am
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See how tired I am of weight threads?

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WAIT!! I love men who wait.. until I am seated before sitting themselves. I love men who wait to hold a door open for whoever is behind them. Even if they don't know them. But wait.....Am I not in the "why I love men thread!! Slaps forehead with palm sighh......Ohh well since I am here I might as well confess. I have been attracted to alot and yes even loved one or two men. I loved them regardless what a scale says their weight is.
Please enough already. Just let it go.
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Because he's one of the volunteer brown nos....
Was that really necessary? Seriously...
- October 10th, 2009, 01:35 pm
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