Haha, I'm sorry about that grin, it is pretty bad. I've actually noticed, however, that men tend to be more cooperative in their efforts to pick up girls that women are. Perhaps women would be more successful if they'd stop seeing it as such a competition. This is why "wingmen" are pretty common but you don't often see the female equivalent. If anything women are all about preventing their friends from having any fun .

Yeah, I get the whole "what if he's a serial killer?" mentality but it's honestly not that realistic. Here's some interesting statistics...73% of sexual assault victims know their attacker. 38% of perpetrators are friends or acquaintances of the victim. Over 50% of cases of sexual assault happen within a mile of the victim's home. 4 out of 10 cases are in the victim's home and 2 out of 10 are in the home of a friend, neighbor, or relative. A stranger is not really any more dangerous than guys you already know.

Well, now that I've convinced all the ladies to never leave their house (although 40% of the time that might not help), let's talk about something a bit lighter =). Chicks should seriously consider helping each other out more but that's just my opinion. For whatever reason they tend to start liking a guy almost because her friend likes him. I've been on the receiving end of this and it's rather unpleasant to deal with.

grin, what I meant about "get away from the group" wasn't that you have to go find guys to talk to. It's much simpler than that. Just physically move to another location. If you make eye contact with a guy and then move to a different table or go stand next to the bar or otherwise relocate yourself somewhere other than where your friends are if he's interested that's when he's going to make his move. Hopefully your friends will be looking around for guys other than the one you're interested in or have enough sense (and loyalty) to not get in the way.

If you're within the herd, however, no matter how interested a guy is in you he's not going to come over there. I've even told my buddies "Man, I'd love to go talk to that girl in white over there but she won't move away from all her girlfriends...they're probably just here for a girl's night out and have boyfriends at home. Too bad." Because if you don't look available we're going to assume you're taken. And (*cough* unlike many women *cough*) guys tend to avoid taken women out of courtesy for the other guy. We wouldn't want some other dude taking a pass at our girl and so we tend to try and give other guys the same peace of mind. This is in general; it doesn't always work out that way.

Speaking of wingmen the whole point is to separate a girl from her friend so you get an opportunity to talk to her alone. So if you're in a group greater than two don't expect much attention from guys. We know your friend is there to sabotage us and plan accordingly. You can use the same knowledge to your advantage if you want.

Jacquesne