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Okay, I just subscribed to match.com a couple of hours ago, just out of curiosity because I've heard so much about it, but I was reluctant to do so before today because I didn't want everyone in the U.S. to be able to search for me, which is really still a very scary idea.

The difference is startling. It feels like a video game on match.com with all the IMs, emails, winks, etc. all coming at you at the same time. However, match.com apparently does not have an advice support board like eHarmony.com.

Do any members have any advice about the differences between the two sites? My head is still spinning.
- October 8th, 2009, 06:22 pm
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Honestly I haven't used eHarmony for dating - just the advice site. I used Match for 2 years and didn't have one match. They kept sending me "matches" that did not fit the criteria I was looking for and then when I complained they never responded. I called and they just kept saying sorry - which didn't mean anything to me because they didn't do anything about it. I cancelled my membership of course. I don't know why I let it go on for so long to tell you the truth. I don't subscribe to any "matching" sites at all anymore. It was a waste of my money. I wish you luck.
- October 8th, 2009, 06:26 pm
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TiffanyDiamond wrote :
Honestly I haven't used eHarmony for dating - just the advice site. I used Match for 2 years and didn't have one match. They kept sending me "matches" that did not fit the criteria I was looking for and then when I complained they never responded. I called and they just kept saying sorry - which didn't mean anything to me because they didn't do anything about it. I cancelled my membership of course. I don't know why I let it go on for so long to tell you the truth. I don't subscribe to any "matching" sites at all anymore. It was a waste of my money. I wish you luck.
I'm sorry about your experience, but in addition to the Daily 5 matches they sent to you (bear in mind that I'm no expert at match.com since I just joined a few hours ago), it appears that people can still search for you and send winks, IMs, and emails to you. Did that not happen? This is the part that I think is like a video game, in that I don't know where these people come from, but it's happening kind of all at once, and continuously. You know, on eHarmony.com, you read an email, and then some people wait two or three days to respond. On match.com, it appears that people know when you have read their email, and it would just be rude not to respond right away. Of course, I am still not familiar with the whole thing.
- October 8th, 2009, 06:36 pm
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No need for your head to spin.

You don't have to respond to IM's if you don't want to. They will likely e-mail if interested.

You can respond to anyone or communicate at your own pace.

If anyone interests you then go for it. E-mail til you are comfortable & then meet them just as you would with eH.
- October 8th, 2009, 06:42 pm
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i did both EH and Match at the same time.

Match is the online equivalent to a bar, IMO. not that that is a bad thing, mind you. if you are a good multitasker you can get some dates out of Match, but i found that the 5 Daily matches they picked for me were either totally off compatibility wise or hadn't logged on in a month or more, similar to EH matching you with non-paying members.

there's also a bigger chance you may know people off of Match- i saw a few guys i recognized from the gym and my ex found me there too.

i think the men on EH are more selective and will close you out quicker, Match is closer to the shotgun approach.
- October 8th, 2009, 06:44 pm
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I have been doing both and right now they stack up this way. out of four first dates, one good one out of match and one good one out of eh. The reasons that the other two didn't work out were actually the same on both match and eh. Both of the guys thought they were so successful I should be swooning over there accomplishments. Wrong. Both of the other matches, one from each, were flawed human beings just like me. Have had second date with one from eh and planning to see one from match again. So I don't know which is better.
- October 8th, 2009, 06:57 pm
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i did both EH and Match at the same time.

Match is the online equivalent to a bar, IMO. not that that is a bad thing, mind you. if you are a good multitasker you can get some dates out of Match, but i found that the 5 Daily matches they picked for me were either totally off compatibility wise or hadn't logged on in a month or more, similar to EH matching you with non-paying members.

there's also a bigger chance you may know people off of Match- i saw a few guys i recognized from the gym and my ex found me there too.

i think the men on EH are more selective and will close you out quicker, Match is closer to the shotgun approach.

Yikes is my gut reaction to your comment about your ex finding you on match.com. This is the reason I didn't join match.com earlier. I'm afraid my clients, and co-workers will find me. Oh well, I joined, and paid the money (for 6 months with a guarantee from match.com that I will meet that special person within 6 months or they will extend my membership for another 6 months for free) so I'm going to see how it goes. Yikes, again. What did I get myself into? I don't have time for this.

There does seem to be different rules of etiquette on match.com that one needs to follow just because of the way it works. There is less privacy. I guess I will just have to learn what those subtle differences are after being so accustomed to eHarmony.com the past two months. Does anyone have any advice about the subtle differences in etiquette?
- October 8th, 2009, 06:59 pm
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I have been doing both and right now they stack up this way. out of four first dates, one good one out of match and one good one out of eh. The reasons that the other two didn't work out were actually the same on both match and eh. Both of the guys thought they were so successful I should be swooning over there accomplishments. Wrong. Both of the other matches, one from each, were flawed human beings just like me. Have had second date with one from eh and planning to see one from match again. So I don't know which is better.

Good for you! I hope it works out well for you. Any advice about any differences in etiquette etc. between match.com and eHarmony.com?

I just submitted a post that needed to be moderated for some reason. I promise I didn't mention anything about sex or any body parts so I don't know why it needed to be moderated.
- October 8th, 2009, 07:02 pm
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there have been threads about this....at length! There definitley are differences....can you search the forum a little? I might write more later, but I wrote soo much on other threads....it might be a valuable read, lots of people contributed.
- October 8th, 2009, 07:10 pm
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scarlet13 wrote :
i did both EH and Match at the same time.

Match is the online equivalent to a bar, IMO. not that that is a bad thing, mind you. if you are a good multitasker you can get some dates out of Match, but i found that the 5 Daily matches they picked for me were either totally off compatibility wise or hadn't logged on in a month or more, similar to EH matching you with non-paying members.

there's also a bigger chance you may know people off of Match- i saw a few guys i recognized from the gym and my ex found me there too.

i think the men on EH are more selective and will close you out quicker, Match is closer to the shotgun approach.

Yikes is my gut reaction to your comment about your ex finding you on match.com. This is the reason I didn't join match.com earlier. I'm afraid my clients, and co-workers will find me. Oh well, I joined so I'm going to see how it goes. Yikes, again. What did I get myself into? I don't have time for this.

There does seem to be different rules of etiquette on match.com that one needs to follow just because of the way it works. There is less privacy. I guess I will just have to learn what those subtle differences are after being so accustomed to eHarmony.com the past two months. Does anyone have any advice about the subtle differences in etiquette?
- October 8th, 2009, 07:10 pm
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