Match.com vs. eHarmony.com


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NiceGuysFinishFirst is offline NiceGuysFinishFirst Post #101  October 18,2009, 6:38pm

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Match tends to net you more dates, but the quality just isn't there. More players and guys who just aren't ready to be dating yet. LOTS of people still hung up on their exes but making an attempt to move on by signing up. Guess who is their therapy!

I'm no longer on Match because I'm tired of being an unpaid personal analyst. Seriously, I now know more about guys' exes than their own mothers do.

Out of my 2 eH dates, I never saw one again and the other went back to his ex-wife after a 4 months together.

Out of my 5 Match dates, 2 were still trying to reconcile with exes, one was not ready for any kind of relationship with anyone needier than an ant, one was a racist, and one is still a friend today. Unfortunately, neither one of us is attracted to the other.

So, I would say six of one, half a dozen of the other...
Whatever you do, stay away from OKCupid.com There is a reason why it is free. They matched me up with someone who gave me a link to her Facebook site and she had made 50 videos of her talking about various things. 1 of the videos had her holding up her baby and announcing to the world that he just learned how to use the potty for the first time. These are the kind of freaks and weirdos you find on OKC.
 
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jayjay wrote :
As scarlet wrote it's more of an 'internet bar'. As a man, it seems that the only way to use match is as a 'numbers game'. That is... writing to many women and then a very small percentage will respond. The problem with this approach is... when I see the occasional woman there that I might have a strong interest in... there's very little chance of communicating with her, probably because she's so bombarded by messages, winks and IMs from other men (most of whom are probably playing the numbers game as well). I've used match on a couple different occasions....but think it's value is pretty limited with respect to finding a long term relationship.
This is every guy's experience I ever talked to about match.com. My anecdotal poll says 1 in 15 to 1 in 30 emails gets a response. After a few months a guy ends up hitting up pretty much any remotely viable female.

I have lots of theories as to why this is of course; about half of which are what a site like match.com turns the average gal into (i.e., feeds the princess mentality) and the underhanded dealings of the site itself (email read notification is fake IMO, and many/majority/most female profiles are non-subscribers yet you don't know that when sending email).

I hadn't thought about the ability for others to search for me (co-workers, clients, ex's, etc). I've had some business dealings that have gone sour and I'd rather them not see some of the more private/intimate details of my personal life.
 
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I agree with those (particularly the men) who said Match is more of a hook-up sight. When I had a match subscription I, like many men, wrote many substantive e-mails to women I had e-mails in, and most never responded. Not even a respond turning me down. I think eHarmony levels the playing field, and seems to have more quality women for men seeking a serious relationship to choose from and communicate with.
 
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peppermint4209 wrote :
I don't think it's completely fair to compare eHarmony to Match...Chemistry is a much more accurate comparison. I leaned toward Chemistry because I'm Christian and the ones I find there are less cookie cutter.
Really? I think you got your sites mixed up.

EHarmony tends to be the more Christian, Conservative site.

Chemistry knows this, and has tried to appeal to the more liberal type of customer.
Heck, a year or 2 ago, Chemistry was hyping in their commercials the fact that they take gays and bisexuals, where EHarmony rejects them.

(Chemistry has since backed away from this kind of ad even before EHarmony settled their frivolous lawsuit... Makes you wonder if those kinds of ads were hurting their straight membership...)

I bailed on Chemistry awhile ago because of those ads, and as well as the quality of Matches were bad. You think you get lots of unpaid member Matches on EH... Ha! Just check out Chemistry!
 
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