Is there a MORE SUCCESSFUL Flirting style?????


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TravelBarbie is offline TravelBarbie Post #1  October 8,2009, 1:27pm
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Okay...so I am fascinated by the "Art of Flirting." And I love to observe...and test out, various styles of flirting. I realize that there are many styles and many mixtures of styles, and I think your personal approach can change depending on the "Object of Flirtation". But I have observed a few often used styles, and am curious about the success of such styles when partnered with certain kinds of men. I'll explain "kinds of men" in a second...but here are the 3 styles that I am thinking of:

1.) The "I know you want me" style...where you coyly (not arrogantly) tease about how hot you are and much the "Object of Flirtation" wants you.

2.) The "Everybody wants YOU" style...where you repeatedly stroke their ego by filling your flirting with compliments and comments about how hot the "Object of Flirtation" is, and how everybody want them.

3.) The "We should totally date" style...where you do your best to coyly allude to the fact that the two of you are perfect for eachother


So of these three styles (which granted may not be your personal approach) which do you think would work best with each of the following 3 types of guys:

A.) The "I had my glory days where I knew I was hot to trot, but now I'm kinda insecure because I feel like I am a little past my prime and not as confident as I once was...but I still kinda think I'm a stud" guy

B.) The "I'm pretty sure I am and always will be God's gift to women because so many women want me" guy

C.) The "I'm just a nice guy, who's pretty middle of the road when it comes to my skills at getting women" guy

Again, I am speaking VERY generally here (I realize that everybody is different and blah blah blah - but we all know guys who generally fit these descriptions).....So men, women, what do you think? Which style with which guy? Or would a totally different style be more successful with a certain guy? Just thought it would be fun to hear what ya'll think...
 
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I would only expend flirting effort on guy C. Other than that, I friend-flirt with everyone. Men, women, dogs, small children. It's a Southern thing.
 
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saulgoode is offline saulgoode Post #3  October 8,2009, 5:32pm
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I prefer the #3 girl.

Coy. Demure. A bit innocent, until you say something suggestive, then she doesn't blush at all, but comes back with something so raunchy you almost want to take a shower, you feel so dirty.

Then it'd have to be #1. I love confident women. So when I say, "You look hot," she says, "I know."

"You look hot."


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How about the 'Do you want to go out Friday night?' style. I know...I suffer from a bad case of 'directness'.
 
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I am only good at flirting on the Advice boards.
 
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jayjay wrote :
How about the 'Do you want to go out Friday night?' style. I know...I suffer from a bad case of 'directness'.
Huh. What are you going for here, Jayjay? Demure? When it comes to flirting, you don't "suffer" from anything.
 
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TravelBarbie wrote :

1.) The "I know you want me" style...where you coyly (not arrogantly) tease about how hot you are and much the "Object of Flirtation" wants you.

2.) The "Everybody wants YOU" style...where you repeatedly stroke their ego by filling your flirting with compliments and comments about how hot the "Object of Flirtation" is, and how everybody want them.

3.) The "We should totally date" style...where you do your best to coyly allude to the fact that the two of you are perfect for eachother


3 types of guys:

A.) The "I had my glory days where I knew I was hot to trot, but now I'm kinda insecure because I feel like I am a little past my prime and not as confident as I once was...but I still kinda think I'm a stud" guy

B.) The "I'm pretty sure I am and always will be God's gift to women because so many women want me" guy

C.) The "I'm just a nice guy, who's pretty middle of the road when it comes to my skills at getting women" guy

Again, I am speaking VERY generally here (I realize that everybody is different and blah blah blah - but we all know guys who generally fit these descriptions).....So men, women, what do you think? Which style with which guy? Or would a totally different style be more successful with a certain guy? Just thought it would be fun to hear what ya'll think...
I think the B1 combo is a repulsive. Go peddle your goods somewhere else.

I think flirting should always be funny as well as sexy, so with someone like me, A & C would do better with 1, as long as it was done tongue in cheek. But I kind of doubt I would really like too much of this from any guy. If A or C is unsure about the kind of girl he's approaching, than he may wish to avoid 1. No sense getting the evil "who are you trying to kid look."

For sheer amusement, B should do 2. but 3 is fine. Just not as funny.

3 Is direct and is probably the safe bet regardless of type.

I think the less sure A or C are of themselves, probably the more they should stay away from 2 unless they can pull it off with more tongue in cheek humor. If A or C can make it seem like all his compliments and his feelings of unworthiness as a mere member of her crowd of admirers is half in jest, than it doesn't seem desperate. It is actually my preferred style when I'm flirting with a guy.... Of course the last time I used it, my match told me he was considering becoming a monk. Maybe I need some practice before employing it as well.
 
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TravelBarbie wrote :
1.) The "I know you want me" style...where you coyly (not arrogantly) tease about how hot you are and much the "Object of Flirtation" wants you.

2.) The "Everybody wants YOU" style...where you repeatedly stroke their ego by filling your flirting with compliments and comments about how hot the "Object of Flirtation" is, and how everybody want them.

3.) The "We should totally date" style...where you do your best to coyly allude to the fact that the two of you are perfect for eachother

I alternate between all three of these currently with this guy ...

TravelBarbie wrote :

C.) The "I'm just a nice guy, who's pretty middle of the road when it comes to my skills at getting women" guy

An so far, it seems to be workin pretty well, but since he's also a lil shy, I cant be too overt in my attempts to lure him to my dark side lol!
Its fun flirtin with someone! Directness please, sometimes, but flirt with me honey I like it like that! lol
 
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I wouldn't wish either of those flirting styles on either of the types of men. I find them manipulative. I wouldn't find Men A or B's attitudes attractive at all: C is the only one I'd find worth speaking to socially.
 
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Spider wrote :
I wouldn't wish either of those flirting styles on either of the types of men. I find them manipulative. I wouldn't find Men A or B's attitudes attractive at all: C is the only one I'd find worth speaking to socially.
Do you like to flirt? What kind of flirting do you like?
 
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