Bubbles09 is offline Bubbles09 Post #1  October 7,2009, 4:57pm
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I've been seeing this man for about a year, off and on. He is busy and so am I. He works full time and has a young daughter, who he adores. But he keeps pulling a diapperaing acts on me. He pops up and we go out for a few weeks, then he just goes away. nO contact at all. But keeps telling me to call or come by. I have mentioned it and did tell him that I was not sitting waiting on him. He said that was ok, I would not expect me too. So, what's up??? I don't know what to do. I don't mind spending time when I have it, but now, I needing something more commited. Should I just end all contact withhim or be more patient and just go with it for now.
 
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brneyedangel is offline brneyedangel Post #2  October 7,2009, 5:39pm
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would very much appreciate it if the rain would stop, now! Thanks!

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Obviously this is not a situation that is going to get you the end result that you desire. I don't think there's anything "up" here at all; I think he's told you, in his own way, that this is the way that it's going to be, and he doesn't expect you to wait around for him. Now it's up to you to decide what you're going to do with that. He is not going to change just because you hope or wish or want him to, so unless this situation makes you truly happy, what's the point in hanging around?
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #3  October 7,2009, 5:43pm
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Any chance of being more specific?

If he simply is not initiating unnecessary telephone “contact,” then I am not concerned.

If he does not respond to your communication, or is not available when you want to see him (and not explainable by employment or other legitimate commitments), then I would be concerned.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #4  October 7,2009, 5:59pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I agree with BEA. If you've been seeing a guy 'on and off' for a year.... then I don't think it's going anywhere.
 
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TiffanyDiamond is offline TiffanyDiamond Post #5  October 7,2009, 6:12pm
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Seems like the two of you are looking for different things. I would move on.
 
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Seems clear to me. This may sound harsh but he's passing time. You're not "it" for him. Find someone who appreciates you, and let this waste of space and energy go. You're providing filler between possibilities.
 
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GEF2 is offline GEF2 Post #7  October 7,2009, 6:39pm
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He's totally using you. He sees you when its convenient for him and when he 'disappears' who knows what he's up to. He obviously does not think of you as a priority and after a year and a half, you should be close to to top of his list, next to his daughter. Its going to be hard, but you should move on and find someone who truly appreciates you and who wants to be with you. Don't settle for less.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #8  October 7,2009, 7:07pm
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I agree with the others. Find someone that is interested in you. This guy is not.
 
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Mickey275 is offline Mickey275 Post #9  December 10,2009, 8:39pm
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He's keeping you on the back burner while pursuing other women. It's that simple. Walk away with your pride intact
 
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