Does it matter if he/she dated 'Lumberg'?


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lacedwithhope is offline lacedwithhope — Advice Member-Moderator Post #61  October 6,2009, 7:17am
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shoopthedoop wrote :
Do people who think that way do so only because of their own past?
jayjay wrote :
You could try asking them..... but they probably wouldn't remember.
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And tell you to have an open mind at the same time.
Perhaps jayjay's mind is so open that things sometimes fall out ... and disappear from his memory forever.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #62  October 6,2009, 7:19am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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lacedwithhope wrote :
Perhaps jayjay's mind is so open that things sometimes fall out ... and disappear from his memory forever.
...and it's a selective process. There are certain things that I want to fall out of my memory. I'm good at remembering funny movies though.
 
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shoopthedoop is offline shoopthedoop Post #63  October 6,2009, 8:03am
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jayjay wrote :
...and it's a selective process. There are certain things that I want to fall out of my memory. I'm good at remembering funny movies though.
Ahhh, selective memory loss. The key to staying happy.
 
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shoopthedoop wrote :
Ahhh, selective memory loss. The key to staying happy.
There is no key.. it's a combination lock. in which most people don't have the combo!
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #65  October 6,2009, 8:25am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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There is no key.. it's a combination lock. in which most people don't have the combo!
We forgot it.
 
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jayjay wrote :
We forgot it.
forgot what... wait... who am I?

and this isn't the IRS advice board
 
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pds857 is offline pds857 Post #67  October 6,2009, 9:08am
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jayjay wrote :
So...the question to you all is, has the fact of who someone has dated or had a relationship with in the past caused you to lose interest in them? Or, do you think it could?
Ok, I'd never really thought about this until now.
But I've been one of those that keeps datin the not so much a Lumberg, but pretty close. I always seem to be attracked to the wrong type for me.
The type that uses until there is nothin left. Dont get me wrong though, not all of them have been this way, but some have. My most recent ex is but he didnt show his real colors until we'd been datin for 15 months. Or he did an I jus didnt want to see it, which I think is a possibility.

An now I'm talkin to this really great guy friend of mine, an we are doin so well. I think I'm really tradin up by talkin to him, an seein where it goes.


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Every woman I've ever dated used to go out with a complete moron, who was horrible in bed, and never treated her right.

I know so. They tell me all about him.

Every girl's ex is a Lumberg.


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5 stars for that one, its so true lol
Most every gal's current is the best, so much better than the last, an not half as great as the next! lol
Jus a lil somethin my grandmother says lol
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #68  October 6,2009, 10:20am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Most every gal's current is the best, so much better than the last, an not half as great as the next! lol
Jus a lil somethin my grandmother says lol
That's not true for my ex's.
 
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Depends on what made the ex a "jerk" (not good at relationships or are they an ax murderer?) and how long ago it was. People make mistakes, learn and grow. But a man who just broke up last week after 10 years with the Queen of He!! would give me pause.

For me a rule of thumb to which there are exceptions is: in a less-than-6-month relationship, there really could be an angel paired with a devil. If it went on longer than 6 months, it takes 2 to tango. And yes, I've tangoed. Try not to anymore.
 
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jayjay wrote :
That's not true for my ex's.
LOL That your opinion? Or do they all say that?

Eh as far as for me, I may be a lil touchy when my ex is brought up
in convo for some reason or another, but I wouldnt have stayed with him for 19 months if I haddnt been happy for the most part.
Actually if he haddnt have cheated on me an I found out, I'd probably still be with him. Goes to show how blind I was.

But I'm happy that it all worked the way it has, because as I've said bunches of times, I'm happy jus gettin to know my high school friend all over again an hangin out an talkin all the time. I dont think I've been this genuinely happy in a really long time.
 
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