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Great topic Jayjay,

I've seen that film; Lumberg is a special kind of toe curling moron.

For a while I've been thinking about the flip side of this. If you want to know what league you are in yourself then simply examine all the other people in your date's past dating pool.

Let's face it, we mostly date people from the same part of the league table. So it's reasonable to assume that's what other people are doing with us. If you look at the people that your date is normally seen with, then that's the league that you're in.

Fascinating.....and occassionally upsetting.........and sometimes very flattering......... but fascinating all the same.
- October 5th, 2009, 11:42 am
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trixie1868 wrote :
Great topic Jayjay,

I've seen that film; Lumberg is a special kind of toe curling moron.

For a while I've been thinking about the flip side of this. If you want to know what league you are in yourself then simply examine all the other people in your date's past dating pool.

Let's face it, we mostly date people from the same part of the league table. So it's reasonable to assume that's what other people are doing with us. If you look at the people that your date is normally seen with, then that's the league that you're in.

Fascinating.....and occassionally upsetting.........and sometimes very flattering......... but fascinating all the same.
Heh. Yes, this is good thinking. Another reliable indicator is how his/her friends think about you. If you're frequently hearing "you're way better than the other jerks she's dated" and she's getting all sorts of "so do you think this is The One?" comments, you can place some fair confidence in the fact that she's 'moved up a league'. Or just watch her girlfriends. They get all bubbly and friendly when their friend finally brings over someone "good". Works for both genders, except friends and relatives will usually say things like "she was so bad for him" or "she was a problem" to a guy about past affairs.
- October 5th, 2009, 11:48 am
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Classic-Classic movie! two thumbs up from C.C.

I don't think 'Lumberg' effect has caused me to lose interest. When looking an exes past partners. I know I've asked myself what is she doing with me. I am the complete opposite on the outside of anyone she has dated in the past, but I don't believe that made me lose interest in that person.
- October 5th, 2009, 11:51 am
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Every woman I've ever dated used to go out with a complete moron, who was horrible in bed, and never treated her right.

I know so. They tell me all about him.

Every girl's ex is a Lumberg.


- Saul
- October 5th, 2009, 11:57 am
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Can't say that I have known any of the people that any of the girls I dated had dated.

Did that make any sense
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Every woman I've ever dated used to go out with a complete moron, who was horrible in bed, and never treated her right.

I know so. They tell me all about him.

Every girl's ex is a Lumberg.


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Hmm, does this mean that we are dating the same women?
- October 5th, 2009, 11:58 am
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saulgoode wrote :
Every woman I've ever dated used to go out with a complete moron, who was horrible in bed, and never treated her right.

I know so. They tell me all about him.

Every girl's ex is a Lumberg.


- Saul
You're the way women up their league ratings Saul!
- October 5th, 2009, 12:03 pm
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trixie1868 wrote :
Let's face it, we mostly date people from the same part of the league table. So it's reasonable to assume that's what other people are doing with us. If you look at the people that your date is normally seen with, then that's the league that you're in.
Trixie. I want to agree with you on this .but with my recent dating and relationship expierence.

Recently I 've dated a few girl who's past bf who were the complete opposite of me. I don't have nose rings and full sleeve tattoo's, plus I have a job and clothes other than band t-shirts. I wouldn't say that I am in that league!

Some people will eventually date out their league to test the waters. whether they go back or not. Well in some cases they probably do.
- October 5th, 2009, 12:17 pm
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Trixie. I want to agree with you on this .but with my recent dating and relationship expierence.

Recently I 've dated a few girl who's past bf who were the complete opposite of me. I don't have nose rings and full sleeve tattoo's, plus I have a job and clothes other than band t-shirts. I wouldn't say that I am in that league!

Some people will eventually date out their league to test the waters. whether they go back or not. Well in some cases they probably do.
Maybe you were in the same league but in a non physical way? Intellect? Sense of humour? Available? Gotta get you thinking.
- October 5th, 2009, 12:25 pm
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Maybe you were in the same league but in a non physical way? Intellect? Sense of humour? Available? Gotta get you thinking.
That's is possible, never judge a book by it's cover..
I don't put myself above anyone else by just looking at them up and down. In this case, I questioned why would she be attracted to me, if physically these are the types of men she has been attracted to in the past. Going back to jayjay question. I didn't lose interest in this person, but I did question their reason for pulling a 180..
- October 5th, 2009, 12:35 pm
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