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I recently received a match that requested communication with me. I took a look at his profile and I have to admit that I don't really find him physically attractive. However, based on what he's written, he seems all right. Part of me wants to close this match, but the other part of me thinks that I should give this guy a chance. Do you ever respond to matches that you are not physically attracted to?
 
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I have not used eHarmony to find a match, but I would respond to anyone as long as there was some potential for something more.

If you know there's no way you could date this man, then don't reply to him. However, I get the feeling you think there's at least some chance for something more, so go for it!
 
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Do you ever talk to people you are not physically attracted to?
 
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If he seems all right, why not meet him for a coffee.

Low risk and if you can't get over the looks at least you won't be left wondering 'What if?'
 
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Only if the pictures leave room for doubt. I'm sure I'm going to be branded as "shallow" for this, but why would I want to date someone that I wouldn't want to kiss?

A certain amount of physical attraction is necessary, IMHO, if there's going to be a healthy relationship. That's a man's POV, of course, and we tend to be more visual.

If there was room for doubt in the photography presented, I'd probably tend to explore questions a little further, but if the photography turns out to be realistic upon a first meeting, then the orginal rule applies.

That said, everyone's taste is different. Nobody ends up excluded from the entire human race based solely upon looks.
 
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I communicated to women I was unsure about.

One thing I learned over time, is that photos are not that good a guide to appearance and attraction in person.

I would not go forward when photos or profile description indicated large excess weight, but fuzzy photos, indifferent attire / hair, or haphazard composition I would meet them.
 
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PinkLilies wrote :
I recently received a match that requested communication with me. I took a look at his profile and I have to admit that I don't really find him physically attractive. However, based on what he's written, he seems all right. Part of me wants to close this match, but the other part of me thinks that I should give this guy a chance. Do you ever respond to matches that you are not physically attracted to?
Is he unattractive to you or are you repulsed? If he is simply somewhat unattractive to you then I would give him a chance. A big part of attractiveness includes manners and mannerisms. Confidence, sense of humor, and many more attribute can play into attractiveness in my opinion.
 
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Is he unattractive to you or are you repulsed? If he is simply somewhat unattractive to you then I would give him a chance. A big part of attractiveness includes manners and mannerisms. Confidence, sense of humor, and many more attribute can play into attractiveness in my opinion.
That is a great question Dennis. I met a woman on POF who seemed really nice, but I was close to repulsed by her picture. We met for lunch and I was hoping it was simply a matter that she just posted a really bad picture.

Sadly the picture was pretty accurate.
 
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If he seems all right, why not meet him for a coffee.
I think the OP was just talking about having received first questions. A long way from a meeting.
 
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I think the OP was just talking about having received first questions. A long way from a meeting.
My bad. Yes, the OP should at least continue the guided communications process.
 
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