Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #31  October 5,2009, 6:51pm
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You never know. He could find you unattractive and you wouldn't need to worry about it.
 
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MansPOV is offline MansPOV Post #32  October 5,2009, 7:11pm
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Absolutely start the communication process... unless they just flat out turn you off in the pics. You never know...

I recently went through the GC with a match. Her pictures didn't give me a really good sense of what she looked like one way or the other. Her pics were neither particularly attractive or unattractive.

But there was one pic in particular where, what she was DOING in the pic intrigued me far more than what she looked like. I just thought, that's the kind of woman I want to meet!

So we got to OC and talked on the phone and totally hit it off! We met for coffee and she was WAY prettier in person than her pics let on. My experience has generally been the other way around. So I was really shocked and very pleasantly surprised.

So you just never know!

PS: We're going out again Wednesday.
 
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I look at the pictures, but for me the profile is what really gets my attention. An interesting profile would make me want to know more about him so I would take a chance even if the pictures aren't that great. You never know if you'll be pleasantly surprised. Everyone is different in terms of attraction, but if you're not attracted to him in any way close the match. Initiating communication just to leave him for someone who is better looking in the end isn't fair. Good luck.
 
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I have gone out with guys that I don't find attractive, but I was trying to be open minded. I think that sometimes, as long as you're not repulsed by his looks, that physical attraction can grow on you, but you have to do what you think is best. I've currently been on 2 dates with someone who I don't find particularly attractive (he's really nice though), and at this point, I don't see myself becoming physically attracted to him. If he asks me out again, I'll probably give him one more chance, but beyond that I don't know if I can continue to date someone when there's no romantic chemistry. I would go out with him at least once-you never know.
 
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PinkLilies wrote :
I recently received a match that requested communication with me. I took a look at his profile and I have to admit that I don't really find him physically attractive. However, based on what he's written, he seems all right. Part of me wants to close this match, but the other part of me thinks that I should give this guy a chance. Do you ever respond to matches that you are not physically attracted to?
It depends: Are you looking for a soul to love and stand by you through thick and thin, or a body that will change and lose attractiveness over time?

I also notice the "would you date someone you don't want to kiss" line. I've dated women that were not photogenic, who I would not find sexy in online pics, who turned out to be great kissers.
 
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MansPOV wrote :
Absolutely start the communication process... unless they just flat out turn you off in the pics. You never know...

I recently went through the GC with a match. Her pictures didn't give me a really good sense of what she looked like one way or the other. Her pics were neither particularly attractive or unattractive.

But there was one pic in particular where, what she was DOING in the pic intrigued me far more than what she looked like. I just thought, that's the kind of woman I want to meet!

So we got to OC and talked on the phone and totally hit it off! We met for coffee and she was WAY prettier in person than her pics let on. My experience has generally been the other way around. So I was really shocked and very pleasantly surprised.

So you just never know!

PS: We're going out again Wednesday.
Ditto for most of your story.... by Laura's pics (equestrian dressage, English saddles blah blah blah) I thought for sure she was going to be one of those nose in the air too good for anyone snobs. Although she is quite incredible, nothing could be further from the truth. That was about 3 months, close to a hundred dates (how many dates does an 11 day trip to AK with my girls to stay with my mother count for? Each day was a new adventure). Although things are not perfect, the Miley Cyrus song "The Climb" YouTube - Miley Cyrus - The Climb - Official Music Video (HQ) (OK my daughters "forced" me to buy the sheet music, am learning on the piano so they can sing to it) seems quite appropriate.

If you don't try, you will never know.

PS "MansPOV", enjoy the date, don't forget to post story and to tell her you want to see her again (reference to comment in other thread, you find it)
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PinkLilies wrote :
I recently received a match that requested communication with me. I took a look at his profile and I have to admit that I don't really find him physically attractive. However, based on what he's written, he seems all right. Part of me wants to close this match, but the other part of me thinks that I should give this guy a chance. Do you ever respond to matches that you are not physically attracted to?
I always respond to all matches that request communication with me, whether I'm physically attracted to them or not. I usually find that what is in someone's mind is much more attractive then anything physical. I would rather be attracted to someone I can talk to and potentially live with then someone who really is just a pretty face.

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