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Who should call after the first date, and who should call after the second date? I think with the younger generation is ok for both, but how about when you are older?
- October 4th, 2009, 10:54 am
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I don't think it matters anymore... I will be able to answer more definitively as soon as I get a first date...
- October 4th, 2009, 12:19 pm
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Age has nothing to do with it. If you want to call then do so. It shows that you are interested. If you want to play silly games then you are likely to lose out and being perceived as not interested.
- October 4th, 2009, 12:34 pm
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anonomousone wrote :
Who should call after the first date, and who should call after the second date? I think with the younger generation is ok for both, but how about when you are older?
Ages should not matter! There is no formula system on who does what.

If you had a great time on a first date.. Let them know you did. This could be a call/email whatever.

If you want to speak with someone call them!
If you would like to see someone. make a suggestion..

rip up the "rules" ...
- October 4th, 2009, 12:35 pm
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I agree with all of the above.

The person who was treated to the cost on the first date ought to send an e-mail "thank you" to the host.

I think the best thing is to establish early on a sense of mutual interest, and equal participation in all phases of a relationship.
- October 4th, 2009, 01:21 pm
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I agree that age shouldn't matter! If you go out with someone and you like them, let them know. There is a difference with giving a phone call/email to let someone know you had a good time and calling them constantly. I don't think it matters who calls as long as there is contact.
- October 4th, 2009, 03:34 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
I agree with all of the above.

The person who was treated to the cost on the first date ought to send an e-mail "thank you" to the host.

I think the best thing is to establish early on a sense of mutual interest, and equal participation in all phases of a relationship.
+1 here. I tend to agree that whomever was asked out on the first date should at least respond afterwards with a nice "thank you, I had a lovely evening" assuming that they genuinely did so. In a nod to modern times, I don't think it really matters how you make the gesture - letter, e-mail, or even a text message. This is truly a situation where it's the thought that counts.

After the first date, I personally still like to be the one to ask someone out on the second date, but I'm far more flexible at that point if it's someone I really like. If she beats me to the punch, I really wouldn't object at all.

After the end of the second date, assuming things are really 'clicking', I say it's a free-for-all. Whoever makes the call first, wins.
- October 4th, 2009, 04:21 pm
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I've never felt it should matter...unless you want to play games or hard to get.
- October 4th, 2009, 07:00 pm
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If I've enjoyed the date and think it went well I will tell the person that I will call them and let them know what day I will call them. I always follow up and make the call.

If I hadn't communicated that during the date I wouldn't be too concerned about who made the next call.
- October 4th, 2009, 07:04 pm
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Culture and family background has a lot to do with who calls who. My mother always said a man should call you and ask you out. Once there is regular communication, say after a few dates than you can begin to initiate a date. I don't necessarily follow that but I can admit that when I do pick up the phone to call a guy I just met, I can hear her voice.
- October 4th, 2009, 11:51 pm
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