she said she wants to go out again but we havent made plans, is she seeing someone else?


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Natedogg2k4 is offline Natedogg2k4 Post #1  October 3,2009, 9:08pm
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ok heres the deal... i recently met a girl from EH and went on a first day, very casual sports bar type of restaurant. Things went pretty good, expect i did not get her number,(i was trying to be a gentlemen) so i send her an email of of EH telling her how I had a great time on our date and would love to go on another one. Well a week goes by with no communication, i heard nothing back from her. So i decide to get her number from the job she works at, so i call her on the phone at her job and i asked her if she wants to go out again with me and she says yes, but we dont really initiate time, place, date quite yet because she said she was really busy that weekend and said probably next weekend would be better. So i wait another week and dont hear anything back from her, (she told me after our first date that she would send me an email with all her contact info). So, not hearing from her this time, i get the address to her work and surprise her with flowers, and ask her once again if she wants to go out again and she says yes again, but we dont set a date, or time place,etc. Do you think she is being nice and just says yes so she doesnt hurt me? Do you think she is seeing someone else? What is your opinion on this.
 
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cp30 is offline cp30 Post #2  October 3,2009, 9:23pm

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whoa. you are crossing some major boundaries looking up her work number (and address) without her consent.

She is probably afraid to say 'no' to you and hoping you will just get the hint.

You should never look up someone's work contact info without permission.
 
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Yeah, you are behaving like someone with serious stalker potential. The whole idea behind something like eH is anonymity that you can meet people safely and get to know them before you exchange more personal information about yourself. I would stop all communication with her immediately, unless she actually gets back to you.
 
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Natedogg.. Dude..ask youself this question..What do you do when you're trying to blow off a girl. maybe never return an email or a phone call. until they get the hint!!

You need to stay away from this girl. I have a crystal ball and I forsee lights and sirens in your future, if you continue that type of behavior.

Sorry man... she's just not into you.
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she may not be into you as mmuch as you are her. Simply send an EH e-mail and let it go. If she is interested she'll respond. Don't come across desperate. Weather she is seeing someone else at this point is not the issue. I know it is hard to let them go. especially someone you had what you though was a connection.

Dont be a pest. usually in the dating world unreturned calls and texts are a way of saying not intereted. Deffinately let the going to her work go. She may even feel Stalked. Be carefull.

When you find someone wh is inerested You will know.
 
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Harvey7 is offline Harvey7 Post #6  October 3,2009, 11:08pm

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Maybe she forgot and needs another reminder? Send her an e mail and be real low key and see if she responds, if not move on!

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This girl is not interested in you but she obviously does not know how to say no thank you. Time for you to move on.

For your next match, when you ask a girl out you don't say "would you like to go out". You say "would your like to (activity) on (date / time)". She has a clear choice and has three answers:
1. Yes - you win
2. No - you lose and you say Next!
3. No and offers a different time or activity - you win If she does not offer a different time or activity then you lose and it is time to say Next!
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That sounds very stalkerish what you did.

She's really not that into you, so you should move on.
 
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chefertiti is offline chefertiti Post #9  October 4,2009, 9:32am
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If a man contacts me and asks if I would like to go out sometime and my response is "yes", then I expect him to then actally pin down a time, place and activity. You failed to follow through on that aspect.

She may have been into you initially, but you took things too far when you looked up her work number and address, she may have gotten a bit spooked-- I know I would have, and I probably would have told you to stop contacting me.
 
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Mr_Right wrote :
That sounds very stalkerish what you did.

She's really not that into you, so you should move on.
Extremely stalkerish. The phone call was too far. The flowers were waaaaaay over the line. Did you send them or show up with them? Showing up with them is getting to the point where she might have a case for getting the police involved.

It is definitely over with this woman. Learn some lessons from this one.
Dial it back with the next woman you meet. When you do arrange your next IRL meeting exchange cell numbers.
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