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bluemoose06 is offline bluemoose06 Post #1  October 2,2009, 1:27pm
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Every relationship I've ever had has been initiated (more or less) by the woman. It's not that I don't have the guts to stick my neck out there, I just that whenever I try, I invariably go after women who aren't interested in me. When it works out, it's either because A) she made the first move or B) she made it painfully obvious that I would meet with success if I made a move AND I had some liquid courage on board.

Females are supposedly all about subtlety; unfortunately, I'm about as subtle as a gasoline tanker crashing into a fireworks factory. I'm sure you have different levels of displaying interest in a guy- the problem is that anything short of nudging your chest into me and suggestively purring that there might be someplace less crowded down the street is likely to go right over my head.

So, How about it? What should I be on the lookout for? And (just as important, really) how do you act when you aren't interested (besides the "you-have-three-eyes-and-seven-legs" glare)?
 
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Every woman will have a different answer for you! LOL! But perhaps enough common themes will pop up for you to locate a 'trend'. I tend to show interest by:

~ Smiling and blushing.
~ Lots of eye contact.
~ Finding reasons to touch him - eg brush hair from his eyes, remove lint from his shirt.
~ Wanting to talk to/with him about a topic which I find interesting or is bothering me.
~ Asking him to help me with a task (I'm short so it's usually something like changing a light bulb or reaching items on high shelves).
~ Joking with him.
~ Spending time with him.

These all continue after the dating has started too.
 
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bluemoose06 wrote :
nudging your chest into me and suggestively purring that there might be someplace less crowded down the street

Come to think of it, Ladies, to avoid more single-ness, just go with this option.
 
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Not really sure what you mean by "interested" but I'm going to assume that you mean interested in getting to know the guy.

First if a guy approaches me drunk he can forget it. And I don't necessarily mean sloppy drunk.

If I talk to him and he asks me for my number and I give it to him he knows I'm interested. Otherwise I treat all guys the same. I'm nice to all of them (unless they are being a jerk) but being nice doesn't necessarily mean I am attracted to you.

The only reason guys ask questions like this is that they are afraid of rejection, and if a guy is that scared to approach me I say don't bother.
 
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bluemoose06 wrote :
Every relationship I've ever had has been initiated (more or less) by the woman. It's not that I don't have the guts to stick my neck out there, I just that whenever I try, I invariably go after women who aren't interested in me. When it works out, it's either because A) she made the first move or B) she made it painfully obvious that I would meet with success if I made a move AND I had some liquid courage on board.

Females are supposedly all about subtlety; unfortunately, I'm about as subtle as a gasoline tanker crashing into a fireworks factory. I'm sure you have different levels of displaying interest in a guy- the problem is that anything short of nudging your chest into me and suggestively purring that there might be someplace less crowded down the street is likely to go right over my head.

So, How about it? What should I be on the lookout for? And (just as important, really) how do you act when you aren't interested (besides the "you-have-three-eyes-and-seven-legs" glare)?


I lift my leg and pee on you if I like you.
 
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I find men interesting, take this for instance, asking
 
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If a woman cuts a man short while he's talking, forget it
If he is talking his way through a tough spot, think about it

Face it, women like to take interest while men are interested in

Problem with that?
Thus begins the final or finally

Guys, go on to perfection, (if you ask me)
But that's just my way of seeing things
 
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Question is, what is it in a man that makes him feel he's the control god? And why is it women make men nervous?
 
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