Heels2000 is offline Heels2000 Post #1  September 27,2009, 6:47pm
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okay need some advice or help i met this girl at the park i notice her and she notice me our eyes were locking each other, so i took the big leap and went over to her and said hi and smile, and supirsely she did the same thing, so we walked around a couple of times had some good conservations, so when she was at her car I ask her if she wants to go out with me she said yes, so i got her phone number, i called her the next day and going out this week, i ask her what do you want to do and she said I dont know you decide..

So my question is what will be a good first date I was thinking picnic in the park or go out to dinner. One more question if she says anything about my last relationship what should i say to her?? I dont want to mess this up.
 
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Heels2000 wrote :
we walked around a couple of times had some good conservations
What... you recycled some cans together?

Please don't ask a room full of strangers what you should do on a date with a person that you met. Be a man and make your best attempt.
 
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Do something that you are comfortable with. Do something that will give you a chance to talk and interact. A lunch picnic could be very good since you could do it in a relatively public place during daylight hours.

You asked what to say about your previous relationship. I have no idea since you didn't say anything about your previous in your post.

In general for interviews (or first dates) you want to try to answer all questions with a positive spin!
 
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Even for a first time meeting I personally prefer something that is interactive for both of us. Have you ever seen the Karate Kid? Nothing wrong with a little competitive air hockey. Now that was a fun first date!
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Heels2000 wrote :
One more question if she says anything about my last relationship what should i say to her?? I dont want to mess this up.
You didn't state anything about your last relationship, but as a woman on a first date if the topic came up, here's what I'd like to hear:

"My last relationship was over 6 months ago and things just didn't work out. It was mutual decision to end the relationship and we parted on relatively good terms, although we're no longer in touch."

If she asks why they didn't work out (she probably won't) you can say you had different goals or wanted different things, etc. If you can include any of these elements and be telling the truth, then you'll be on pretty safe ground, IMO. But, be sure to be honest. Good luck!
 
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Dude! Never, never, never ask a woman what she wants to do! Arrrggghhh! You are teetering on blowing it.

Step up and come up with an idea. Women like men who step up and be the man.

If she offers and suggests a place or doesnt like your suggestion, fine, but dont be asking her to suggest something
 
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I would look for a puppet show or a concert at a college, a play or an activity will also do as well. The reason is to build up a level of comfort and trust with her and you don't have to be entertaining her by yourself.

Then of course you can arrange for the two of you to take a dance lesson
There is something to be said for that as well Country or Latin dance is very sensual and then take her for lunch or dinner and maybe some dancing? Have fun.

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You are still in the meeting, getting to know you stage so someplace that you can talk is a good idea. It would help to know something about you like where you live and how old you are.

Since you met at a park and then spent some time together walking around the park, I think a picnic lunch at the park sounds like a nice first date idea.

If it is going to be an evening date then dinner at a nice restaurant or maybe a light meal at someplace like Panera Bread, a round of mini golf ending with some ice cream.

As for what to say about your last relationship. You want to be honest and put a positive spin on it. Something along the lines of "we decided that we were not right for each other and gone our separate ways.
 
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melman wrote :
What... you recycled some cans together?

Please don't ask a room full of strangers what you should do on a date with a person that you met. Be a man and make your best attempt.
That certainly is helpful
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
That certainly is helpful
I hope it is. This fella joined a forum, just to post this question. Nobody "knows" him (if it is even possible to really "know" someone through their posts), except that he needs to work on his spelling a bit. Nobody knows his date nor what's available in his town. And we're supposed to give him date ideas? Doesn't he have any friends or relatives or a licensed clergyman to talk to?

OK, you want advice? Go to Long John Silver's. Get there at 7:10. Any earlier and you'll look desperate. Order the all-you-can-eat shrimp and a coke. Unbutton the top button on your shirt. Not the top two, it'll make you look cheap. At 7:23 excuse yourself to the restroom for three minutes. If she asks about your prior relationship, pretend to choke on a crab puff. If she asks again, answer "my mommy told me that I needed to make some new friends". Or pretend that you don't understand the question because your native language is Portuguese. If she tries to kiss you at the end of the night, pretend you have something stuck in your teeth. I hear the ladies like that. Call her at 6:45 am the next day. Because you're a go-getter. Any later and you'll lose her. So don't screw this up.

Happy now?
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