Too Focused on Finding a Mate? Get Out of the Dating Doldrums


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DennisWisconsin is offline DennisWisconsin Post #1  September 27,2009, 9:59am
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I have been disappointed in finding LTR/companionship so far and I really don't want to focus on 'numbers'. How soft, cuddly, and romantic is that? What do you do to avoid the doldrums?

I've met allot of people working (volunteer) at places like:
Audobon Nature Center
Zoo
Main Street Program
Homeless Shelter

I'm looking for an opportunity now and I was surprised to find this list in my area at:

Welcome to Serve.gov

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Book Discussion Group Leader
Christmas Toy Shop
Safe and Sound Application Review
Homework Helper
Library
Tutor
Arts and Crafts Presenter
Elderly Outing Volunteer
Grocery Shopping
Computer Recycling
Audiotape Transcriber – Record Books
Cookie Bakers (For Hospital Patients)
Parks Weeding (Remove Invasive Species)
Youth After School Programs
Computer Skills Instructor
Hospital Volunteer
Facility Maintenance
Telephone Auctions
Good Neighbor Project – Yard Work
Children’s Hospital Volunteer
YMCA
Victim Advocate – SATC Crisis Line
Basic Computer Training Instructor
Microsoft Office - Instructor
Youth Mentor
The Arts - Improv Group Leader
Big Brother/Big Sister
Snow Shoveling
Disaster Services
Museum Docent
Musicians Share With the Elderly

Besides helping people and meeting people including other volunteers these activities can be a great diversion as well as being really fun!

eHa Groups, Volunteer Stories:
Volunteer Stories
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Excellent Suggestions, Dennis! Volunteering helps you meet people but I think it can also help your self-esteem. If you are a shy person it is a great way to come out of your shell and practice social interaction outside of dating. Another plus is that I think it makes you more attractive to a potential partner. Someone that is caring, selfless and giving is always a bonus in my book!
 
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yoga_gal wrote :
Excellent Suggestions, Dennis! Volunteering helps you meet people but I think it can also help your self-esteem. If you are a shy person it is a great way to come out of your shell and practice social interaction outside of dating. Another plus is that I think it makes you more attractive to a potential partner. Someone that is caring, selfless and giving is always a bonus in my book!
Hi Yoga_gal! Thank you... I am going to volunteer for the computer tutoring... I find it's good to get outside of myself once and awhile... If I spend too much time thinking about me I get bored!
 
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Are you promoting a new group, Dennis??? If I do all this volunteering when am I going to be able to post???
 
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Are you promoting a new group, Dennis??? If I do all this volunteering when am I going to be able to post???
No new groups! lol

You could help people use the internet and post at the same time! lol At some point your student may want his computer back though...
 
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Thanks so much for this link, Dennis! I'm a volunteer literacy tutor in my county and really don't want to give that up, but I've been wanting to find a more group-oriented kind of work that I can do on at least an occasional basis that will give me an opportunity to meet more like-minded individuals. This should be a big help!
 
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Another plus is that I think it makes you more attractive to a potential partner. Someone that is caring, selfless and giving is always a bonus in my book!
And for those of us who aren't.....at least it gives us the appearance of having these qualities.
 
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And for those of us who aren't.....at least it gives us the appearance of having these qualities.
Everyone knows your a good guy JayJay, it's way too late to hide it...
 
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Work_in_Progress wrote :
Thanks so much for this link, Dennis! I'm a volunteer literacy tutor in my county and really don't want to give that up, but I've been wanting to find a more group-oriented kind of work that I can do on at least an occasional basis that will give me an opportunity to meet more like-minded individuals. This should be a big help!
Your welcome! We have just started collecting volunteer stories and descriptions of volunteer opportunities. Perhaps you would like to contribute a story or two?

Volunteer Stories in eHa Groups:
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/gr...rtunities.html
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You're a good man, DennisWisconsin.
 
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