I met a woman on eH and we dated for about three months, she just ended it and I'm looking for a little advice on how to proceed.

Things moved relatively quickly but she was the driving force behind how quickly things moved.

1. She gave me a key to her place. (Then I reciprocated.)
2. She took me shopping for toiletries to keep at her place.
3. She asked me to fly back to her hometown with her for a cousin's wedding about a month ago, which we did.
4. She used the L word first, then asked me if I felt the same way. I said I did, which I think I felt at the time.

About three weeks ago she had a minor freak out about living in a new city, starting a new job and a new relationship. We talked about it that night. I dropped off a card for her a couple days later saying I was there to support her and would be there for her as she worked things out. She thanked me for the card and apologized for freaking out.

I really do like this woman, I backed off a little bit to try and give her some space.

Tonight after dinner and a movie she told me that she had thought about things and had decided she couldn't see things working out with us long-term so she ended it. Part of her reason for breaking it off was as I backed off, we saw each other less and didn't talk on the phone as much, she didn't feel like she was missing the contact with me. I made it clear that I didn't feel the same way. It was a very mature breakup, no yelling/tears/histrionics on either side.

After 800+ matches on eH and 20 or so first dates in 9 months (on and off) at eH, I truly felt she was the one. We are pretty compatible on a number of levels. At least I feel we are. The differences she pointed out were pretty minor in my eyes. In the U.S. setting she would be a liberal Democrat and I'm more of a moderate Democrat. I don't really like her favourite author and I'm not a cat person. I didn't see any of these as deal breakers.

We agreed to meet for lunch next weekend to exchange the stuff we have at each other's places and have one final discussion.

How should I handle this meeting? She works in academia, so I am thinking we should meet one more time after the end of the term. I feel this would allow her time to really think about things. I'm not fooling myself and am pretty sure nothing will have changed by then. I would like to keep that option open and feel one final meeting after she has had a chance to think things over couldn't hurt.

I understand the need to move on, but don't think I'll really be short-changing myself as I really don't have any desire to start trying to date anyone else in the next two months.

What are your thoughts?