Dumped because she couldn't see it turning into an LTR.


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LizziePooh wrote :
Interesting approach...isn't it hard to be passive??
It wasn't that hard. We were a lot more compatible than she is willing to recognize - or is just focusing on the differences to justify her decision.

brneyedangel wrote :
Shoop, I'm so sorry to hear that this has happened.

I'm a big fan of being true to the person you are, and from the posts I've read of yours here on the boards, you aren't aggressive, you're assertive. There is a huge difference there, and it is one that women see and appreciate. Assertive is good--aggressive is not good. My assertiveness is a part of who I am, and if I removed that from the equation, I wouldn't really be me anymore. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I understand wanting to change your approach, I've done that myself, but my suggestion would be to not change the person you are in that process.
I don't really feel I changed myself that much. The only thing I did that I was really uncomfortable beforehand was the trip to her hometown. That went much better from my perspective than hers. The key thing was a little odd, but I've never really been in that position before and didn't really have a problem with it. I was intrigued by the different political views, but she wasn't much for debate or critically examining the issues.

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Or it could be that the relationship did run it's of course.

The idea to give it until the end of term and have one final discussion isn't a bad thing. Time and adjustment can make all the difference in the world. Good luck.
The relationship appears to have run its course from her perspective. I'm sure we will have on final discussion at some point. I am not really interested in a John Cusack-High Fidelity type conversation and finding out 'what I did wrong'. When I'm ready I'll arrange a meeting to discuss what happened from my perspective and I will certainly be assertive in expressing my side of things.
 
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