yoga_gal is offline yoga_gal Post #1  September 26,2009, 7:00pm
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So, I have read on the boards a lot lately that dating is a numbers game and I agree. The more you put yourself out there - the more numbers you get, the more matches you meet, the more likely you are to meet "the one".

But does this mean you are approaching dating as a chore instead of with the intent of getting to know someone? Have you ever gone out with someone that you felt like they were just going through the motions and dating was a chore to them?

How do you keep dating (especially e-dating) from becoming a mundane process and keep the focus on getting to know each person you meet, the real person behind the profile?
 
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Can I make fun of you now for the Number of posts you have made tonight?

I'm getting all confuzzeled.
 
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First, familiarize yourself with How to Get a Date Worth Keeping by Dr. Henry Cloud. He explains the whole dating numbers game very well.

Since I have only dated two girls for more than one or two dates (sometimes their choice sometimes mine) I have not had much of an opportunity to have any of my matches try to actually get to know me.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Can I make fun of you now for the Number of posts you have made tonight?

I'm getting all confuzzeled.
You can make fun of me anytime you want! LOL I give you permission because I know you will do it anyway!
 
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Are you serious here?? Are you having trouble keeping your enthusiasm at an abnormally high rate?

Answering this could run me out of paper here(lol). Remember why you are trying to get those numbers up!!
 
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Each person is a differnt game, and all you have to do is find the right one. The challenge is part of the fun. Learning all about many different people you may not have met otherwise has to be fun too!!
 
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I've been thinking about this a lot......(100 coffee dates).

I think I do hear from a lot of men who are jaded and tired of the process....and no longer trying to make the best of it or putting their best foot forward. They are going through motions and doing the minimum they have to do to meet women.

Internet dating is evolving into a whole new culture of 'speed dating' and I don't think it's really the best way.

Yes, it is a numbers game in a way. But it's best if you do not let your matches know you feel that way.....treat everyone with an open mind and your best foot forward.....
 
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I just re-upped with eHarmony after a break. I'm definitely having trouble being enthusiastic.
 
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clearlyoblique wrote :
I just re-upped with eHarmony after a break. I'm definitely having trouble being enthusiastic.
I guess that means you have already looked at your matches?
 
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clearlyoblique wrote :
I just re-upped with eHarmony after a break. I'm definitely having trouble being enthusiastic.

Is your distance set to NJ?
 
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