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MelinCali wrote :
Do tell!
What's to tell? There's never any dates!
- September 27th, 2009, 10:31 am
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brneyedangel wrote :
Actually, I didn't write the question about me, it was written more along the lines of a general question because it's a topic that I see coming up on the boards quite often. However, if I told you how long it's been since I've been on a date, you might be surprised, based on your statement.
Unless you live out in the boonies where there are no single guys I can't imagine why you would not get any dates.

However, I think that many people, both guys and girls, don't get many dates because they set themselves up to not get any dates. Not saying that is your problem.
- September 27th, 2009, 12:05 pm
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brneyedangel wrote :
A friend of yours has hit a dating dry spell and is feeling frustrated and defeated. What recommendations would you make to help this friend get over his/her slump?
First off, define 'dry spell'. Does that mean that they are asking people out and are being turned down? Or that they haven't been asked out by the right person?

I suspect that the feeling of frustration and defeat is due to the fact your friend has linked the lack of dates to their value as a person.

This is the problem, not the lack of dates.

I would recommend some reading and some personal introspection...Louise Hay would be a good start and the Six Pillars of Self Esteem would be another.
- September 27th, 2009, 12:54 pm
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brneyedangel wrote :
What's to tell? There's never any dates!
I thought you were suggesting that you might have gone on one very recently that we didn't know about. Sorry.
Last edited by MelinCali; September 27th, 2009 at 12:59 pm. Reason: That long, huh?
- September 27th, 2009, 12:59 pm
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MelinCali wrote :
I thought you were suggesting that you might have gone on one very recently that we didn't know about. Sorry.
Oh, there's no need to be sorry at all. It'll happen one day, and you will hear about it when it does!
Last edited by brneyedangel; September 27th, 2009 at 01:39 pm. Reason: yep, but part of it was waiting till I was ready again.
- September 27th, 2009, 01:37 pm
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For women its more of a confidence issue.

If you are unhappy with your job, a man cant change that for you

If you are unahappy with your weight, or appearance, a man will notice this in your demeanor that you lack confidence.

If you are unhappy with your friends and sulk when you go out, men notice this

If you are unhappy with your life in general, men can tell and dont want to be brought down.

The day that you can wake up and be 100% happy with being alive and well is the day that someone will notice.
- September 27th, 2009, 03:03 pm
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I choose to believe that i'm on a backpacking trip across the Gobi desert for charity.
Brain, mate, I'm absolutely confidant that even in the middle of the Gobi desert you'd be charming the socks of em. I'm disappointed with you. You're my inspiration. I'm sure I could get a most excellent dowry for you.
And brneyedangel I'm surprised. I'd be chasing you if only you were a continent or two closer. Mind you, you might want me chasing you. But I' trying to get in a compliment.
- September 27th, 2009, 03:25 pm
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brneyedangel, I can relate to what you are posting about. I've pretty much given up on the online format. As for where to meet a nice, put-together, available man, I think they are hiding under bridges or something...lol! I'm very active and social, yet I haven't been meeting anyone, either.
- September 27th, 2009, 04:17 pm
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Okay, I feel the need to try this again, because I don't think I did a very good job the first time around.

This is not a question about me. I'm not trying to post a question and play the "Let's pretend it's not about me when it's really about me," game. I'm good where I'm at--I'm very happy and things are really, really good, I promise!

This is just a general question that I'm tossing up here because it's something I've seen on the boards over and over again in many different posts, and I think it merits some attention. It's about men or women, because I've seen both genders post about it. If a friend came to you, either IRL or on the boards, confided in you, and said they seem to have hit a dating dry spell, they were feeling frustrated, and they weren't sure what to do, what are some general suggestions that you would make to try and help them out?
- September 27th, 2009, 05:24 pm
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...and we are not gonna tell you which bridge either.

Actually I think a lot of men do not do as many social activities as women (except maybe drinking). Also, the men to women ratio varies depending on where you are geographically located and the activities you do. If guys want to meet women then a cruise ship is a good place to go and I hear in some areas (I think Alaska and more rural areas) men outnumber the women.
- September 27th, 2009, 05:34 pm
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