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LilC is offline LilC Post #1  September 26,2009, 1:22pm
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I meet this guy who lives about 45 mins away. I asked him for our first date to meet somewhere in the middle he choose a place that wasn't entirely close to him but easier for him then me... Now we made plans a week earlier and then he canceled, and then he canceled a second time again. When I asked him to meet me at a specific place that I believed to be perfectly in between us he said that's to far. Then suggests me going to a movie in his town. My sister tells me to cancel what do I do?
 
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If he's not willing to meet you half way and you are uncomfortable with that, then you shouldn't go, plain and simple. Never place yourself in a situation that makes you uncomfortable.
 
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If you are truly interested in meeting the guy, you should go, 45 minutes isn't that far. But if he's not willing to drive 20 minutes now, he's probably not going to want to make the 45 minute drive to your house in the future.
 
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LilC wrote :
When I asked him to meet me at a specific place that I believed to be perfectly in between us he said that's to far.

When he askes you to pay the costs perfectly in half what are you going to try to say?

Don't bother answering, I've heard it already.
 
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I say cancel. If you had canceled the date two times, I could see that he might think it's fair for you to show a little extra consideration for him in meeting. HE should be doing that now and suggesting that he drive to your town, IMO. I don't think he's putting enough effort in to make it worth going the 45 minutes, unless you've really gotten some great conversations going with him on the phone or something like that. I think that if he is quibbling over a few minutes for the half-way point, he is acting childish and showing more of what is to come for his effort put into a slightly long distance relationship.
 
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I'd say he sounds worse than childish. If he wants you to see a movie in his town I'd be afraid he might be up to no good at all.

Avoid this one.....I see nothing good in what you wrote.
 
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hmm...who offered the second date after he cancelled the first? Who offered the third after he cancelled the second?

He's either not interested, indifferent, or on his guard. Since you seem to have the ball, you get to call the play.

Or, you could just ask him.
 
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Since I don't know anything about you this could be a bit off but here is my opinion.

I am with the others that say don't go. This is why I would say that. First a 45 minute drive is not very far to go in my opinion.

Second any guy that won't go to a place of the girls choosing for a first date is not a guy worth dating in my opinion.

Third a guy that cancels twice and then says that a place that is in the middle between you and him is too far is not worth giving another thought to, in my opinion.

Find you a man that will treat you as the lady you are.
 
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tjlpd is offline tjlpd Post #10  September 26,2009, 5:00pm
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Do not go. He cancelled twice and then can not meet half way. Wow not a great first impression. sounds like he is not that interested in you or he is just an a$$.
 
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